How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

i have guardianship over my 2 gr.sons due to crack cocaine and i need proof before i let the girls go back to their mother if you know any place i could call or write i wouild appreciate it ty

….i know i will not pass the hair follicle but i will pass the urine….i have full custody rights to my son…. if i come up positive for cocaine… even if i don’t do it often does anyone know what will happen to me?????
first of all im not a bad parent i take great care of my son… i love him very much… i never do it around him …..it was one time when i was at a bar when my son was at his dads for the …. everyone make mistake im not perfect but i can tell u i get up with himeveryday feed him play with him care for him everyday and his sorry so called father only has him 4 days out of the month and he does things alot worst them me

Okay so they are separated, they have been since Oct. 2007, so like 1 1/2 yrs…my dad was always a jerk to begin with,I think he is Narcissistic(sp?) like he always makes fun of me & my lil sis, like calling us stupid, dumb retarded….he is so juvenile too, like he has the mentality of a teenager really. He has no “normal” friends, unless you consider an alcoholic who drives drunk w/his son in the car & an oxy cotton/cocaine addict “normal”. He hates women, I think cuz he says,”all women are crazy.” And I’m a GIRL!!! He isn’t supportive either. But we dealt w/him in family therapy….it’s a lil better….

My mom- she can be ok at times but she is kinda crazy too. Her mental friends call at all hours….she loves to bash my dad but I don’t feel comfortable doing that w/her….if I’m talking to her while shes on the computer about idk school she won’t listen but if its about my dad, oh boy she’ll stop w/e she’s doing and listen and bash him. She’s one to pull guilt trips too, making me feel guilty about stuff. I HATE that…she never wants to hear anything she doesn’t want to hear. Even if I’m tactful, she’ll get mad & freak out. We were friends with this crazy family who I came to like & come close with the lady & the lady suddenly ditched us(she’s like bipolar & an alcoholic, except she won’t admit it) & now all of a sudden my mm is like talking to this lady’s husband like they’re old friends again when we haven’t been friends for a year! I told her about it nicely & she freaked out, saying it’s none of my business, blah blah blah….

My point is w/my mom we can’t calmly discuss anything. If I tell her nicely not to do something, she’ll do it anyway. She thinks she’s normal & everyone else has to change. She never apologizes, I always end up apologizing just so she’ll give me back stuff even though I didn’t do anything. I’m so sick of it, I have to hold all my feelings inside or else she’ll throw me out of the house(she does it all the time) I don’t think we have a normal relationship…HELP!?

BTW, I’m 14.

i’ts been a month since i relapsed and i wanted to try NA meetings but some say only spirital clossenes to god will help if anybody was addicted to crack cocaine give me some advice?ihave a 2yr old son and husband i don’t want to loose

my son listens to rap and i don’t like all the violence in rap and they way they talk about women, drugs and so on. we had a bet that my son couldn’t find 1 country song that has all of those things in one song, well, some1 came across johnny cash (cocaine blues-i believe) well there is a part that i am saying has to do with paternity but my son says it has to with sex. if it has to with sex then he won the bet but if it has to with paternity then he lost. so what do ya think?

also is that song just as bad as rap or not
the only thing i know is that 2-3 songs that my son told me were innocent turned out to be not so innocent. for instance he likes that song something about inside peanut butter outside jelly and another song called zoom i think and neither one of those songs is innocent, maybe not all rap is like that but what the kids are listening to these days is talking about all of that
im not trying to stop him from listening to them, its just a debate we are talking about and i am just showing him the reason i don’t like rap for the most part

I have a 5 month old baby. My husband (his father) walked out on Christmas Eve, after an arguement as a result of him being drunk and becoming verbally abusive towards me. I have suffered this for several years and only decided that enough was enough after my son was born.

My husband regularly takes cocaine. He SWORE he had given it up when the baby was born, because the baby deserved better and his mood swings and bad temper were making life awful for everybody. A crying baby was always enough to push him over the edge.

He does coke most weekends, but his mood swings are present all of the time. He also drink drives every single weekend.

My husband is now talking about access to our baby. I am terrified to hand my son over to him in case he has one of his temper tantrums (my husband, not the baby) and takes it out on the baby. He would NEVER hit him, but shouting alone is bad enough.

Am I being over protective or should I try to arrange some kind of supervised access? How do I do this?

Any advice appreciated.

My 22 year old cousin is 7 weeks pregnant…but she prostitutes and also uses crack cocaine the whole time she has been pregnant. She has a 3 year old son who was tested positive with crack cocaine in his system when he was born and he was given over to her aunt. What can be done right now while she is pregnant to get her off the streets and stop using. We try and help her, but the second she leaves here…she is back out there on the streets again walking. Anyhelp would be great. The father of the baby is in jail right now…so…he can’t do much. Any opinions would be great, thanks!
She will not go to any drug treatments, the longest she was clean was the few weeks she spent in jail. Would CPS be able to be able to do anything…if they cannot find her?? She doesn’t really live anywhere, just whereever she falls asleep

Can you do me a favor and answer all 3 question so i can have some in site on my situation…

1. Sons fathers a loser in prison for 6-30 yrs… but his parents on the other hand are druggies and all of his sisters are druggies… There house is nasty n they are very rude to me n my son…. I decided i wont go there no more because of how they live n the drugs they do… they do, weed, cocaine, and the parents are pill poppers as well as shooting dope… am i wrong for not going there??

2. Ive gone there several times and they NEVER call me nor do they ever come in visit me… and i was upset about that.. i believe its a two way street and they should come to my house sometimes as welll….. but they never do… every time i talk to them i say you are more than welcome to come anytime just call n let me know… never get a call…. well today the sister that lives with the parents is 24 she text messaged me today saying i was talking smack about her brother and for me to quit running my mouth… i said im not… someone asked if he ever hit my son n i said yes he did because he did…. then she text me n says whatever b**ch take care of my brothers son, if you can even handle being a mother… WOULDN’T THAT PISS YOU OFF???? Then on top of that she says when my son gets older she will tell him how im a liar and im fake n that I wont let them see him… That is so not true they need to make a initiative to come see him too, its not going to be me all the time…. If i had a grandson n wanted to see him id come over everyday if i could…. whats your take on this???? what would you do?? Am i wrong for not wanting my son to have to deal with there petty a$$ crap? I mean i never want to go over there again… Im not saying they cant come here but i wont go there.. is that wrong of me??

What would you do if this was you and your son in my situation?? I mean im 28 years old n i hate childish ppl…. and drama n they are all about drama and bad mouthing ppl… I wont allow them to bad mouth me to my son when he gets older???

What would you do…

3. What would you tell your son when he ask why we don’t go see them? would you be honest n tell him because they are druggies n the same reason they don’t come see you??

Im so freaking streessssed about this my anxiety is killing me… HELP ME PLZ

My son is my world and my parents will vogue for that.. as for her saying that shes doubts my ability to be a mother to him really hurts…
I appreciate all the insite ladies.. Keep em coming.. Id like to hear more…

Oh and i forgot to say my son is 2 and he don’t even know who they are they have not seen him in a yr…

A father passing by his son’s bedroom was astonished to see the bed nicely made up and everything neat and tidy.

Then he saw an envelope propped up prominently on the pillow. It was addressed, “Dad”. With the worst premonition, he opened the envelope and read the letter with trembling hands:

Dear Dad,

It is with great regret and sorrow that I’m writing you. I had to elope with my new girlfriend because I wanted to avoid a scene with you and Mom.

I’ve been finding real passion with Joan and she is so nice. I knew you would not approve of her because of all her piercings, tattoos, her tight motorcycle clothes and because she is so much older than I am but it’s not only the passion, Dad, she’s pregnant.

Joan says that we are going to be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood, enough for the whole winter. We share a dream of having many more children.

Joan has opened my eyes to the fact that marijuana doesn’t really hurt anyone. We’ll be growing it and trading it with the other people in the commune for all the cocaine and ecstasy we want.

In the meantime, we’ll pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so Joan can get better; she sure deserves it!

Don’t worry Dad, I’m 15 years old now and I know how to take care of myself. Someday, I’m sure we’ll be back to visit so you can get to know your grandchildren.

Your son, Chad

P.S. Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at Tommy’s house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than the report card that’s in my desk drawer.

I love you! Call when it is safe for me to come home!

The “Dirty Cop Mustache” dropped the Cocaine onto the ground called my Son back took him to the Houston Police Department then he went over to the Harris County Sheriff’s Office. I was never notified of his death until the Doctor that releaved the Doctor that annoynced him dead. They tried to arrest me several times to keep me quiet, but that’s not gonna happen. I’ve been thru 22 different Attorneys, and the only thing I got out of them was I can’t take the case, but they took my money, until I’m broke. You see Terrice was 19, and my only child. I lost my home, had a Stroke behind all the Stress, so please would someone please help me /

I was a addict to crack cocaine and the end result of this was loosing a large sum of money and eventually loosing my son to my best friend while I went into treatment. I have finished my treatment and an still attending AA. I am also still going to court over my son on the 22nd. Will things start to straighten out?

I’m 53 years old. I have raised two boys by myself after I kicked their cocaine addict, white trash, cheating father out of my house. Now, my son Aaron is 35 and my son Kevin is 31. I also have five grandchildren. Three from Aaron and two from Kevin. I love Aaron’s wife Monica but I do NOT like Kevin’s wife Carrie. My sons are my pride and joy, even in their thirties. When Aaron first met Monica, I didn’t like her but Aaron put his foot down and told me that I will not disrespect her in his presence. So, I grew to like Monica. Carrie on the other hand, I’ll always despise her.

Carrie is a weak, whiny little b*tch. She had a job, she cooked, cleaned, did laundry and took care of the kids while my son Kevin laid around and did nothing but eat, watch television, sleep and bang her. For years and years, Carrie cried and complained but she did NOTHING to demand her respect as a woman. That is WHY I don’t respect her. Let me tell you something. I barely had enough money to keep food on the table for my boys when I told their dad to leave, but I STILL managed. My self-respect was worth more. Last year, Carrie cheated on my son Kevin, claiming she was tired of being used and unappreciated. Why couldn’t she just LEAVE HIM? That just made me despise her more. It broke Kevin’s heart and now, he is working, helping her with their kids and simply shoving his head up Carrie’s a s s like a little coward. It’s awful. Now, I just called Aaron and Monica and offered to keep their children for the weekend. Monica wanted to know if Kevin and Carrie’s kids were coming over my house too and I said no. I didn’t bother to ask and I’m not going to. This led to an argument. Monica was simply being biased, because she and Carrie have became best friends on the strength that their husbands are brothers. Monica told me if I won’t take all of my grandchildren, then she and Aaron are keeping their kids home. Fine. If she wants to be immature like that. But after everything I said, do you understand where I’m coming from or am I wrong?

My sister inlaws is 22,her fiance will be 40 sometime this month. The problem is that I know he does cocaine and they both get pilled all the time. The live in Enland for now.Whenthey visited my hubby and I noticed how her fiances mood changed drastically. When he went back home he blamed me for stealing $300 which I never did.I have young children and would rather that my kids have no contact with either of them. I don’t know what to do.

I have told my hubby when they come back over that they are not welcome at our home. Am I doing the right thing?

I know that is my hubby’s sister but she has been in our business for years telling my hubby years ago that I threw our son in the crib when I didn’t and she wasn’t even in the room!
She tells us how to run our relationship meanwhile we have been together almost 13 years. She causes alot of problems for us.Probably wrong on my part,but I threatened her with a secret I know about her and that was her abortion. I had it her controlling us.
I told my mother inlaw befrore she left for england (3 years ago)that her daughter was smoking up in the driveway of the house she had no concern,nothing. My sister inlaw came into the house smelling so strong of it and with my kids around I had to leave.

I just don’t want my hubby thinking that I am out to hate his family. I am trying to protect my kids,they don’t need to be around people like that.

My daughter has the same first name as my son’s ex-wife. When son got divorced, he moved back with us, and had his mail forwarded to our house. His ex had also moved but apparently not left a forwarding address, so hers got forwarded to us too. We returned hers to the post office. Daughter no longer lived with us when this happened.

Fast forward six years. Today my daughter got a letter from a firm supposedly tracing people who had money coming to them, envelope and letter addressed to her with her married name and current address (different city than ours but same state as us), but the letter described money owed to my son’s ex (she and my daughter have different middle initials and the ex’s middle initial was in the text of the explanation in the letter, the firm is in FL where my son and ex lived, we are in PA. The firm appears legit, with a high Better Business Bureau rating.

My questions are 1) how did their info get merged, and where 2) what can she do to find out where the merged info exists, and get the info un-merged 3) what trouble can this cause her in the future? She has checked her credit rpt with all 3 companies and nothing is out of line there. My daughter is understandably upset. Son’s ex was arrested for cocaine some time after their split. None of us has any idea where she is now.

I’m 53 years old. I have raised two boys by myself after I kicked their cocaine addict, white trash, cheating father out of my house. Now, my son Aaron is 35 and my son Kevin is 31. I also have five grandchildren. Three from Aaron and two from Kevin. I love Aaron’s wife Monica but I do NOT like Kevin’s wife Carrie. My sons are my pride and joy, even in their thirties. When Aaron first met Monica, I didn’t like her but Aaron put his foot down and told me that I will not disrespect her in his presence. So, I grew to like Monica. Carrie on the other hand, I’ll always despise her.

Carrie is a weak, whiny little b*tch. She had a job, she cooked, cleaned, did laundry and took care of the kids while my son Kevin laid around and did nothing but eat, watch television, sleep and bang her. For years and years, Carrie cried and complained but she did NOTHING to demand her respect as a woman. That is WHY I don’t respect her. Let me tell you something. I barely had enough money to keep food on the table for my boys when I told their dad to leave, but I STILL managed. My self-respect was worth more. Last year, Carrie cheated on my son Kevin, claiming she was tired of being used and unappreciated. Why couldn’t she just LEAVE HIM? That just made me despise her more. It broke Kevin’s heart and now, he is working, helping her with their kids and simply shoving his head up Carrie’s a s s like a little coward. It’s awful. Now, I just called Aaron and Monica and offered to keep their children for the weekend. Monica wanted to know if Kevin and Carrie’s kids were coming over my house too and I said no. I didn’t bother to ask and I’m not going to. This led to an argument. Monica was simply being biased, because she and Carrie have became best friends on the strength that their husbands are brothers. Monica told me if I won’t take all of my grandchildren, then she and Aaron are keeping their kids home. Fine. If she wants to be immature like that. But after everything I said, do you understand where I’m coming from or am I wrong?

I’m 53 years old. I have raised two boys by myself after I kicked their cocaine addict, white trash, cheating father out of my house. Now, my son Aaron is 35 and my son Kevin is 31. I also have five grandchildren. Three from Aaron and two from Kevin. I love Aaron’s wife Monica but I do NOT like Kevin’s wife Carrie. My sons are my pride and joy, even in their thirties. When Aaron first met Monica, I didn’t like her but Aaron put his foot down and told me that I will not disrespect her in his presence. So, I grew to like Monica. Carrie on the other hand, I’ll always despise her.

Carrie is a weak, whiny little b*tch. She had a job, she cooked, cleaned, did laundry and took care of the kids while my son Kevin laid around and did nothing but eat, watch television, sleep and bang her. For years and years, Carrie cried and complained but she did NOTHING to demand her respect as a woman. That is WHY I don’t respect her. Let me tell you something. I barely had enough money to keep food on the table for my boys when I told their dad to leave, but I STILL managed. My self-respect was worth more. Last year, Carrie cheated on my son Kevin, claiming she was tired of being used and unappreciated. Why couldn’t she just LEAVE HIM? That just made me despise her more. It broke Kevin’s heart and now, he is working, helping her with their kids and simply shoving his head up Carrie’s a s s like a little coward. It’s awful. Now, I just called Aaron and Monica and offered to keep their children for the weekend. Monica wanted to know if Kevin and Carrie’s kids were coming over my house too and I said no. I didn’t bother to ask and I’m not going to. This led to an argument. Monica was simply being biased, because she and Carrie have became best friends on the strength that their husbands are brothers. Monica told me if I won’t take all of my grandchildren, then she and Aaron are keeping their kids home. Fine. If she wants to be immature like that. But after everything I said, do you understand where I’m coming from or am I wrong?

I am 43. My brother is 45. We went to his house for memorial weekend and he allowed his neighbor to snort cocaine in the bathroom with my son and grand daughter in the next room. We left and told him how extremely irate we were and he laughed about it. I have not spoke to my brother in 2 years and my mom is so upset that I won’t just forget about that whole thing. He still has not apologized and at my moms he said he thought it was funny. So needless to say, when there is a family thing, we are the ones who don’t get invited. My son and grand daughter are 12 and 5. Nobody except my brother is a drinker. Am I right to be outraged?

BTW they do dislike me (she has called me white trash, whore, the slut their son married, etc) and she is interested in ways to purchase cocaine (she recently asked her other son to get her some) what do you recommend I use for small talk?
I was thinking – do you think coke is a good diet plan for woman in their 60′s?
Is male favoritism something that you support?
Does my daughter look and act too much like me for you to have an interest in?
Does this shirt make me look slutty?
Any other suggestions for lively conversations? Usually its what the weather is doing but i’m looking to liven it up….
lol love it des! perfect way to start this topic.
first party poopers must have fantastic inlaws… please share your wonderful stories about how much they love you.
second – what? swingers? please elaborate and yes fridays works for me.
yay! the troll! when are you gonna change your name? you know you love me. dont you? just admit it!

not crack cocaine but just a regular container that can carry enough to take bumps…..i think my son has one but im not sure and i would like to find out the correct name before i confront him

This disagreement is about our 20 year old son.He has been going out on and off with this girl to say the least she is a loon. She is depressed a Cocaine addict and Ecstasy addict.My son started to date her two years ago when she was 16 and her found out she was using drugs and she said she would quit, but of course she did not. They breakup due to her drug behavior like she cheats on him at a drug party and in a few months she gets into trouble and lonely because she either screwed up her current relationship or her friends had enough of her.They got back together in the end of september and it lasted until the beginning of december. When she was at my house i noticed she lost a lost of weight and she was shaking lot. My sons friends had to leave because she had an anxiety attack. This girl acted paranoid all the time and his friends told me she was having nose bleeds. Here is the disagreement between me and my wife,she thinks again in time this girl will want him back and this whole crazy cycle will start again. I think this girl has been addicted to coke and Ecstasy since she was 16 now she is just 18 and having nosebleeds lose of weight and acting paranoid. i believe that this girl does not have long to be on this Earth and not to be mean problem solved. my wife says i am wrong… am I ?