My father died when i was 17,25 yrs ago,my mother remarried,the man was archie bunker/alcoholic.she retired at 62,to care for him,diabetes,pace maker,etc,8yrs later he died in 2000 in there bathroom,2003 her mother 93 moved in with her on oxygen,hospice coming twice a week,she died in her house too 2004,then her son
moved home cancer,2004 he died sept.2007 almost 1 yr ago,i moved home to help her in 2005,been here since trying to help ,she won’t admit she has elzheimers,won’t get help depressed an bitter,what can i do she panics when i walk out the door,her father had elzheimers,she refuses to talk to me about it,HELP!
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My father died when i was 17,25 yrs ago,my mother remarried,the man was archie bunker/alcoholic.she retired at 62,to care for him,diabetes,pace maker,etc,8yrs later he died in 2000 in there bathroom,2003 her mother 93 moved in with her on oxygen,hospice coming twice a week,she died in her house too 2004,then her son
moved home cancer,2004 he died sept.2007 almost 1 yr ago,i moved home to help her in 2005,been here since trying to help ,she won’t admit she has elzheimers,won’t get help depressed an bitter,what can i do she panics when i walk out the door,her father had elzheimers,she refuses to talk to me about it,HELP!
I had a beautiful baby boy (Damien Jose Alvarez)several weeks ago. We broke up about 6 times during our 15 month relationship. He’s a serious alcoholic and cheated on me with the current girl he is with the whole time I was pregnant. However, I noticed on my exes facebook page he has not mentioned he is a new father and none of his friends and family mention anything. In fact when his niece was born last year he had pictures of her posted all of his page like that was his child. He looked so proud holding her. Calling himself uncle Jose. Now he has his first child, a son and he doesn’t even acknowledge him. He has called me only once since the baby has been born. I’m 25 and my ex 27.
The pregnancy was unplanned.
I had a beautiful baby boy (Damien Jose Alvarez)several weeks ago. We broke up about 6 times during our 15 month relationship. He’s a serious alcoholic and cheated on me with the current girl he is with the whole time I was pregnant. However, I noticed on my exes facebook page he has not mentioned he is a new father and none of his friends and family mention anything. In fact when his niece was born last year he had pictures of her posted all of his page like that was his child. He looked so proud holding her. Calling himself uncle Jose. Now he has his first child, a son and he doesn’t even acknowledge him. He has called me only once since the baby has been born. I’m 25 and my ex 27.
The pregnancy was unplanned.
So my high school reunion is coming up so I’ve been trying to catch up with some of my old high school friends I saw my old friend (lets call him) “Derek” on my-space and we got to chating online. He sent me pictures of his 3 sons and I sent him pictures of my two boys. The first thing I noticed about his son is that he had Fetal alcohol syndrome, so I have not responded to his email because I just don’t know what to say to him, obviously his exgirlfriend must have drank while she was pregnant, so I asked a mutual friend just now on FB and she said “oh yah I heard Derek’s ex-girlfriend was a big time alcoholic she had to be hospitalized for alchol poisoning twice when she was pregnant.” now I just don’t know what to say to him. Do I acknowledge that he has FAS and ask about it, or do i wait for him to bring it up? when he does bring it up how do I handle it, I mean I don’t want to get judgmental because honestly I don’t know how he could have stayed with her and had 2 more children after the first had FAS
the friend on FB that I asked is also his best friend and godmother to his children not just anyone.
Also I can’t really play dumb because I have a degree in abnormal psychology and biology so I know a thing or two about FAS
I don’t think i’m really getting the answers to my question.
i feel as though i’m just getting a bitch rant I think I should ask again in the morning
So my high school reunion is coming up so I’ve been trying to catch up with some of my old high school friends I saw my old friend (lets call him) “Derek” on my-space and we got to chating online. He sent me pictures of his 3 sons and I sent him pictures of my two boys. The first thing I noticed about his son is that he had Fetal alcohol syndrome, so I have not responded to his email because I just don’t know what to say to him, obviously his exgirlfriend must have drank while she was pregnant, so I asked a mutual friend just now on FB and she said “oh yah I heard Derek’s ex-girlfriend was a big time alcoholic she had to be hospitalized for alchol poisoning twice when she was pregnant.” now I just don’t know what to say to him. Do I acknowledge that he has FAS and ask about it, or do i wait for him to bring it up? when he does bring it up how do I handle it, I mean I don’t want to get judgmental because honestly I don’t know how he could have stayed with her and had 2 more children after the first had FAS
the friend on FB that I asked is also his best friend and godmother to his children not just anyone.
Also I can’t really play dumb because I have a degree in abnormal psychology and biology so I know a thing or two about FAS
I don’t think i’m really getting the answers to my question.
i feel as though i’m just getting a bitch rant I think I should ask again in the morning
There’s this monologue I’ve heard about 2 times but never catch what play it’s from. It’s about a girl who is forced to go to a Alcoholics Anonymous meeting and talks about all the problems she has like being evicted because she would not date the landlord’s son, her parents disowning her because they mistaken “I’m late” for “I’m gay” over the phone, etc. In the end she yells out: My name is (don’t remember) and I’m PROUD to be an alcoholic!
I like the little guy but I am a proud and functioning alcoholic. I had today off and I told my exwife I was planning on getting hammered in the morning and continue drinking until I pass out tonight. Well she told me she promised my son that I would come over fully knowing I planned on being drunk all day. So obvioiusly I didn’t show up. As I’m sitting here drinking I keep asking why don’t I feel any guilt? I am almost aggravated that she just put me in the position to choose drinking or my son. She tried that with our relationship while we were married and look where that got her. I’ll buy him a Transformer or something to make up for it but I guess I am just a strong person who keeps to their convictions
I have a shocking true story could WYE ME about a boy that had a alcoholic mother with metal helf problems.
the boy is now 34 and happily married with 4 step kid and 2 of his own
He had cancer last year an has a 40% chance of dieing.
The family moved to a new home when the boy was 7 years old, and then the boys troubles started !
The boy had happy life until his mum became ill and started to drink heavily .
One day the boy came home from primary school to find his mum had taken a over dose she had try-ed to kill her self .
The boy panicked and did not now what to do as she lay motionless ,he tyred to wake her but she would not wake.up.
So he ran out in to the street crying and then knocked on a nab biers door for help .
The nubbier went with the boy to his house then the Lady rang 999 for a ambulance.and covert-ed the boy an till his father arrived.
When his dad got home he said to the boy she will be OK son ,as tears ran down his cheeks.
She in a special hospital ,meaning a mental hospital called Hill end, the boy did not under stand what was going on !
He felt scared and confused, all he wanted was his mum.
The next day the boy an his dad and big brother went to visit his mum at hill end mental hospital.
When the got there the the started to cry saying i don’t like this please daddy it was a old victor en building with scary people.
They went to reception and asked to see his mum ,so they waited until some one came to get them to take them to the ward.
They all went up along corridor it seamed to go on for ever and then up some stairs to to door with bars on the man unlocked the door and the first thing the boy saw was a old lady rocking and burping over and over and people walking up and down the ward talking to them self s.
The will never forget that day ,that day was start of the boys problems !
The mum has never recovered she is still very ill.
This has had a great impact on to boy life the family broke down and the boy started pulling his hair out .
his dad did not know what to do with the boy so he sent him to see a doctor and they did not know what was the mater with him.
At the age of nine the boy talk his first over does he talk his mum peels and ran away cry to the park thinking about his mum and wye is his life has got so bad now.
His father started to confide in the boy saying he dose not know what to do with mum, this was hard for the boy as he did not really understand or know what to say or do !
All the boy wanted was normal child hood and to be loved
.Things went wrong at school he could no think state and play up he was throne out
Things went from bad worst when he stated puberty, he started getting aggressive and fighting with his family ,he was fall off anger and his father could not cope with him and his mum ,so his father told him he has to go to boarding school .
Thing never worked out there and he was expelled age 13.
To cut along story short the boy left home age 14 he slept in a hag opiset his house for some time and a west Indian boy bro-rt him food this went on for some time an till the west Indian boys mum found out and talk him in .
the boy ended up in care not a nice please call Bridges he ran away to a place called farmstead and slept in a bus stop.
were he met Fred .
Fred lived in a foster home on a farm we became good Friends and i slept in the barn .
Fred had a hard life to so we got on well .
One day Fred and the boy started cutting there arms up, this felt good to them it realest all there stress an tent-ion.
(there so much more to tell about that time) they are still Friends to day
the boy ended up in hill end !!!! he was put to sleep for swearing again and again an-till he got Armand to the drug then he jumped throw the window and escaped
(so much more to tell)
some of
key points to cut to short
1 stabbed by father
2 flats he could not keep
4 first son
5 swots
6 drugs and self harming.
7 pub and club fighting
8 army
9 different home in different places
10 boxing with travellers and gasters and living on sites
11 Hill end
12 door man in London
13 lived with Fred’s mum she was hard work .had to look after her
14 went to lansaroty with tenner
15 drink mum
16 dads death
17 roses, Fred’s mums death the same week
18 inheritance from dad
19 marred the sister of Gail friend and had a baby boy could Tommy
20 now living with happily marred and and he has 40% of dieing from cancer
Yes that’s me, my Friends said it would make a good book can i have your expert pinyin please if poss .
be on-est
kind regards lee
lthotstuff2006@btinternet.com
We’ve been separated now for almost 2 years. We spit up when she’s 8 months pregnant. I was always partying and she knew I was, especially with other women. I was into a variety of things, like alcohol, cigarettes, marijuana and other substances. When we first met, I was in a Drug Program. I have been working but not consistently. I just received a letter in the mail from Child Support Services about 4 weeks ago and haven’t responded. I admit that I lied to her many times, but times are different. I just applied as a United States Security Officer and its gonna take time until we get posted. Its takes 2 weeks for fingerprints results/verification and 1 week to get a guard card/uniforms and 1 week until I got a job. My mistake is, that I let my son’s mother know that I completed my “Powers to Arrest” exam and that I passed it successfully, and that I also when thru 40 hours of training. I am behind in my child support but she thinks that it was a paid training when it was wasn’t. I tole her it wasn’t and she made it seem like I was lying to her. I haven’t consumed any alcoholic beverage going on 4 months, nor had a cigarette going on 5 months. I have been clean on from all substances going on 5 months. I am assuming she is with someone else cause of the way she has been treating me. I used to be able to walk up to her door, now she doesn’t allow me to enter her gated community.
What should I do? Should I just let it go? Am I too late to save what we had before? HELP ME!…
What do I need to do to adopt my ex-wife’s son. I have been his dad since he was 2. He is now 12. The mother is an alcoholic and have left the state. The “father” has never been in his life.Dont pay child Support. His aunt have temp.custody,but he lives with me full time. The aunt and the rest of the family wants me to adopt him. Both the mother and father have said in the past that they both will agree to me legally adopt him. Hard to raise a child when I have no legal rights. What do I need to do?
Just wanted to add that its not following the court order to let my kid live with me.The aunt is supposed to make a home for him. And pay for afters school care And isurance etc. But that has all been taken care of by me. Also the aunt had to file to extend the temp.custody for a reason that I am not sure about.The mother did not sign away her rights. She just didnt show up since she was in detox out of state yet again. And she is there now also.
What do I need to do to adopt my ex-wife’s son. I have been his dad since he was 2. He is now 12. The mother is an alcoholic and have left the state. The “father” has never been in his life.Dont pay child Support. His aunt have temp.custody,but he lives with me full time. The aunt and the rest of the family wants me to adopt him. Both the mother and father have said in the past that they both will agree to me legally adopt him. Hard to raise a child when I have no legal rights. What do I need to do?
Just wanted to add that its not following the court order to let my kid live with me.The aunt is supposed to make a home for him. And pay for afters school care And isurance etc. But that has all been taken care of by me. Also the aunt had to file to extend the temp.custody for a reason that I am not sure about.The mother did not sign away her rights. She just didnt show up since she was in detox out of state yet again. And she is there now also.
Is there any other place in NW IN that has a good dual diagnosis program? He has been clean for four months but is depressed and ready to relaspe.(cocaine and/or heroin was what he used to self medicate.)Has low self-esteem, doesn’t care about anything,carries alot of guilt, and shame for things he’s done to self medicate. Newlywed since May/wonderful girl, new father to a baby girl/October and has a really good job that he likes in sales. Everything to be greatful 4-she/we(family) have alot of trust issues with him as he used to take his checks from previous jobs and go on binges or steal from us. His father is an alcoholic/drug addict. I divorced him when he was 9. He has a loving a and supportive family and a step father that has been there 4 him 4 9 yrs. My son is 25. Has been through alot of jobs until he found this one. Haven’t been able to find a doctor to treat his depression, they always address the substance abuse and not the depression. Need help.
My son is three, about to turn four. My exhuband/his dad disappeared over a year ago and even before that didn’t see him very often (once every other month or so). His dad was also pretty violent and an alcoholic and drug user. Now, I stopped getting child support and when I tried to follow up to see what the situation is – his dad is saying he wants to see our son and claims that I have been keeping him from him (patently false, even if I should have been). He also says that we need “revisit the custody situation.” I tried asking my son if he remembers his dad, he just seemed really confused. When I showed him a picture of his dad, he just asked “Who’s that?”
What should I do?
I currently have full custody, but it is nearly impossible in texas to have visitation revoked. If he were to show up at the right time with the visitation orders in hand, he can call the police and have my son taken away. It’s a pretty tricky situation and I have to tread pretty lightly because realistically, I don’t have that much control in this situation.
My son is three, about to turn four. My exhuband/his dad disappeared over a year ago and even before that didn’t see him very often (once every other month or so). His dad was also pretty violent and an alcoholic and drug user. Now, I stopped getting child support and when I tried to follow up to see what the situation is – his dad is saying he wants to see our son and claims that I have been keeping him from him (patently false, even if I should have been). He also says that we need “revisit the custody situation.” I tried asking my son if he remembers his dad, he just seemed really confused. When I showed him a picture of his dad, he just asked “Who’s that?”
What should I do?
I currently have full custody, but it is nearly impossible in texas to have visitation revoked. If he were to show up at the right time with the visitation orders in hand, he can call the police and have my son taken away. It’s a pretty tricky situation and I have to tread pretty lightly because realistically, I don’t have that much control in this situation.
Okay, heres my story. My son has been friends with his older male cousin(he’ll remain nameless) for many years. In fact his cousin considers my son his best friend. But lately I’ve been noticing that his cousin has been acting strange. In fact he gets weirder every year. I investigated his family. His dad is a low life alcoholic that beats him and has their German Shepard attack him. Then his Step mom is a psycho who is obsessed with looking younger and she constantly abuses verbally and psychologically her step son. Threatens to make him go sleep outside. Then his siblings leave garbage in his room and that causes his Dad to beat him and his mom to cuss at him. Now she won’t let him have any friends over. She says their idiots. And she no longer calls him by his name, she calls him stupid. Now here’s the bad part, the kid has been speaking less and less, harming himself, playing with knives,getting dangerously close to my son, and now wants to kill the family except for my son.
The boy has been cutting his face, and wearing masks to hide his “ugly” face. He draws pictures of his whole family burning in hell saying he “did God’s work and sent them there” and it shows a picture of him and my son(his cousin) in Heaven saying “we’re good boys and God’s perfect Angels”. BTW, my son is 7, the boy is 8. The Step mom goes out and brings home other men and has them strip in front of the boy and they make out. Also did I forget to mention the boy masturbates to dead things and mutilated things? He sometimes just sits and stares into space, doesn’t move or talk. I have no clue what could happen. I am worried he might try to harm people and come for my son.
He moved in a little over 3 years ago. He doesn’t pay any bills or contribute in any other way. He is also an alcoholic. I don’t want him living in my home anymore. I have asked AND told him to leave. First he said no he wasn’t going anywhere, now he says he’s going to leave but every time he’s supposed to leave something happens (i.e. he’s car breaks down, he hasn’t found a place, etc). He is proving to be detrimental to my well being and our son’s well being as well. I understand that in VA the laws are a bit complicated as far as getting him out of the house… I own the home, the couch that he sleeps on, the food he eats, you get the picture…he owns nothing but his car…we have a 3 year old son together. Could the police do anything? Do I have to court? What can I do to get him out asap?
How do I get past my 3yr olds father jumping in bed with a mutal friend and getting her pregnant less then 3 months after we broke up?
I have 2 boys 3 & 5.My 5 year olds father (shawn) died 1 week before he was born due to pneumonia. I was single for a while then started dating shawn best friend Brian a year after shawn died. We dated for 4 years and 2 years into the relantionship we had my 3 year old. we have been broken up for 15 months now and i just found out he has been dating a mutal friend of ours and they have a 6 month old baby. That means she got pregnant (i think she trapped him) less then 3 months after we broke up.
The girl was a mutal friend, she dated one guy for 10 years and said she took birth control every day at the same time and she knew about medications affecting it because she worked at the doctors office. When me & brian broke up she said she would talk to him (i was in NC him in VA) and help to get him to come back that was the end of OCT beginning of NOV now i find out she got pregnant by him in JAN and she said “well sometimes things happen” I think she trapped him to keep him from coming back.
Anyways I dont want him back Im in a happy relationship but it just makes me crazy and so sick that he did that BOTH of them did that. I just want to get over it but i want my son to have nothing to do with that family (last i knew they both drank a lot, & he’s always been an alcoholic) i dont want him to be in that situation but i know i cant keep him from his dad. Now brian is saying he cant send me as much money because he has two kids to take care of, well so do i and i need whats owed. but its more difficult then that so we cant just go to court, because of medicaid and so on. I just want to get over it and not be so angry all the time. but how when i hate what he did to me and my son and it makes me sick!
if my sons so called father has been abusive towards me around my son but has never hurt my son but has hurt me with him in the room and spit in my face and pushed me with my son in my arms and is an alcoholic and a pill head and his name is not on the birth certificate and has had a DNA test down without my consent
what i his rights to my son and can i stop from him seeing my son ever and his parents too.
A drinking alcoholic, not going to AA, and it has affected the children already… the 8 year old son doesn’t even like to go to restaurants that have bars, refers to people in movies as drunk (like if the character can’t remember something or acts strange), etc. The 12 year old girl says she doesn’t even want to get married and will never drink alcohol…these are just a couple of examples, but it is clear that these kids have been permanently affected. The dad “falls off the wagon” every few months and spends lots of the family’s money and sometimes doesn’t come home…or comes home and the family has to flee so that he won’t act crazy around the kids.
Would you look at it like, “the damage is already done” or “I need to prevent further damage” or what?
If you feel that the wife/mother in the situation should leave, but hasn’t, how if at all would you try to encourage her?
This is about my sister’s family and it breaks my heart. Her kids were two of the happiest people I’ve ever seen and they are being hurt by his actions.
She has been going to al-anon for years, even after he dropped out of AA, but she hasn’t been going as consistently the last year or so.
Oops–I forgot my niece just turned 13… and she is interested in boys and has chosen a guy her mom totally doesn’t approve of who her mom describes as “having issues.”
