How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

He said he didnt think to pour it out, and he hid it so noone would think it was his. My son also asked me why do I think he comes home chewing gum. its to get rid of the smell. My husband can’t smoke inside his work, so he says he chews gum when he can’t smoke. I asked him why come home chewing it when you can smoke, he said he guessed he liked chewing it. The part of me that believes he isnt drinking is because he was a very violent and aggressive drunk, and I’ve not seen that lately. We have had some arguments but not like before. And when he drinked, he never drinked whiskey or liquor, only beer. My son suspects he’s drinking stronger alcohol to get drunk quicker. My husband’s daughter and sister even suspect he’s drinking. I know I should believe my son also, but I have not found anything to suspect from my husband. What should I do? My son is his stepson. I thought my husband was going on 9 months sober. Please help me.

5th time been on here about my friend helped her non stop now she been sober for 7 days she doesnt want to know me the prob is my son is 6 and in the same class as her kids my son has aspergers syndrome so he finds friendships so so hard usually i would pick her kids up sometimes and they would come n play now she blanking me and my son, my son is upset and now she actually told her family shes hid it for a year and been offloading on me she doesnt want to know me i am so hurt and now she is cutting my son out i cant understand people

Married 6 years. Husband’s alcoholism progressively got worse, although he still retained his job as a school administrator. He loves the bars. I tried to keep up with him for a while, but couldn’t. He became verbally abusive, flirted with other women (I can’t prove adultery) and refused to get help. His mother and extended family try to talk to him sometimes, but don’t really force the issue. After all, he is the favorite son and cousin. He and I are both 54. I nagged, begged, made excuses, etc. I went and got him when he couldn’t find his car many a ‘next day’. He is the Cell Phone King and loves to wife bash. He has told lies about me, even sober. He lost his cell phone when he was out TWICE in bars and guess who he blamed? He finally left after I continually told him that if he wanted to live the single life, he needed to live it outside of our home. He has been gone a month, living in the same town. He has not tried to call or communicate. I don’t want the drama anymore, but I wonder if he truly doesn’t really care and I need to accept it. Is the fact that he doesn’t communicate a sign that he is ready to move on? I can’t ask him anything; he refused to talk about anything serious when he was home.

When my husband of 6 years gets a “buzz”, he is verbally abusive to me and my son.(from a previous relationship) When he’s sober and I tell him what he said or did he calls me a liar and denies it all. I have left him many times but I keep coming back. He has started AA classes and soon as he realizes I’m back, he stops AA and starts drinking again. I love him but this is causing me to really dis-like him. I am not attracted to him anymore because of this reason. When we lay down together all I smell is beer and his eyes are glossy. I need advice on what to do. I don’t want to turn my back on him, we have 2 children together and i have one from a previous relationship who looks up to my husband as his daddy. I don’t want them to think it’s o.k to drink a case of beer a day.(and still walk a straight line)

my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle

my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle

my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle

My best friend of 15 years is a full blown alchohlic. She has tried help and nothing works, she don’t want to quit. She has a very bad attitude when she drinks and gets verbally abusive. I love her to death but really can not take it anymore. She lies to me when she is drunk thinking i am stupid and can’t tell, she talks bad about my husband and my son!!! But when she is sober, she is the sweetest person in the world. I know I should just tell her if she is gonna drink then to just stay away, but she is the only real friend i have and on top of that she lies to me about drinking when she comes over. I don’t want this around my son and newborn. She has even lost her son and drivers liscence. Now I have a party for my baby coming up and I slipped about it to her and there will be alcohol there. Although I didn’t tell her when it is, what do I do about it? she has insulted our families before at recent parties. What do I tell her? Should I X her out of my life? I am confused.

It is the son asking how he is suppose to follow in his dad’s footsteps when his dad foot steps are stagger, how his dad came to graduation drunk and snuck out early.Come home late and drunk?? I know this is a bad discription but I would like any help!! Thanks!!!

relationship has become very bad.He does not even want to have sex with me.I am 45 and he is 51.Some how although he is an alcohoiche likes to shout at me only for all his problems.last 7 years not a sinle time he has had sex with me. whether he has another woman or women i am not very sure. but he tries to fight for no reason.I have one adoted son. whi\o is 9 years old.

I am a stay-at-home mom and am divorcing my alcoholic husband. At present, the alimony & child support I will receive won’t be enough to continue caring for my son full-time. I’ll have to put him in daycare 9 hours a day to make ends meet (I DON’T want to do that!).
Here is the question…My husband is being considered for a new job where he will make $50,000 more per year! If I wait to file for divorce until he starts this new job, will I receive more in child support and alimony? I wonder mainly because we’ve been separated for 4 months and I don’t know if the courts will look at his income at the time of separation or at the time the divorce is filed.
I know some nasty person is going to call me money grubbing, but this is ALL about avoiding putting my young son in daycare all day long when he’s used to being at home with me. I’ll be working full-time as soon as he’s in regular school.
Thanks!

I am a stay-at-home mom and am divorcing my alcoholic husband. At present, the alimony & child support I will receive won’t be enough to continue caring for my son full-time. I’ll have to put him in daycare 9 hours a day to make ends meet (I DON’T want to do that!).
Here is the question…My husband is being considered for a new job where he will make $50,000 more per year! If I wait to file for divorce until he starts this new job, will I receive more in child support and alimony? I wonder mainly because we’ve been separated for 4 months and I don’t know if the courts will look at his income at the time of separation or at the time the divorce is filed.
I know some nasty person is going to call me money grubbing, but this is ALL about avoiding putting my young son in daycare all day long when he’s used to being at home with me. I’ll be working full-time as soon as he’s in regular school.
Thanks!

My family had just moved here so we’re not familiar with the place yet. I just want to know how I can get information regarding addiction treatment centers within the area. My son is an alcoholic, and I had just recently convinced him to get himself treated. Any information you can give me will be greatly appreciated.

My son is on their honeymoon and wants to live with them. The new wife has a lot of money and a fancy black sports car which I cannot compete (nor do I want to) with. My 12 year old son is enamoured with this new life style. How do I cope with the pain?

Me and my sons dad are still together, yet he lives in Sioux City IA and I live in TX. I am living with my sister right now and he is trying to recover from not only alcohol, but from losing his job, his light and about to be the roof over his head. Yesterday he was blessed with a job that pays great there but he still has to struggle till his first check. I had a job until last week so i got my last check yesterday and I try to send him as much as I can without breaking myself. I want to stay here and work and save while he is there making sure that when me and my son gets there we wont have to do without. Sometimes I feel so insecure about him because well lets just say I forgave him for a lot of stuff he did to me in the past. We have both let each other know of any deep dark secrets we had and got everything out in the open. About a week ago he had a drink because he felt so much pressure on him at the time he thought he needed it. It really hurt me because if he drinks he tends to lie. Also, yesterday he went to see one of his friends that is not a good influence, epecially in his situiation and he didnt anser my phone calls all night and also didnt call me till late the next day. I was a mess, I called the jails there, I called the ER’s there, and I could not find him. So when He finally called me I was upset. He tells me that he went out and started not to feel well and drove himself to the ER in the city he was in. I didnt call to verify but I should have. I kno that he does have a heart problem so I asked him if he drank and he said no, then I asked him if he had done anything else to cause his heart rate to mess up and he said he had to go he was updet that I would even ask him that. I really didnt mean to ask that, I was just upset that I hadnt heard from him and he was ignoring my calls. Should I feel guilty for asking him that? he said it hurt his feelings. I have never been with anyone that is recovering from alcohol, so how should I handle things if I feel like I have been hurt? I dont want to cause him to go back to the drink. Can anyone relate?

every day theirs parents that insult everybody, including their own, that their’re abandon from their family, except a son or their daughter. that with all the insult they take , till they take care of them. without support of another member. and without doing a intervension.

I am with my oldest son now who is 18, the problem is my youngest son is 7 yrs old, he is with my ex husband in PA, I do not know what to do stay in MA or move to PA. I hate all this time being missed with my little one on the other hand I have my mom sisters oldest son here for support, what do you think you would do?

My fiance and I are alcoholics and have stopped drinking to make our relationship and family better.We have a 9 month old son.I guess it is really all we did before because now we are bored and don’t know what to do when our son goes to bed.We are trying to think of hobbies for us that we could do at home in the evening.Any ideas?

We never married, have a 7 yo boy together. When we fuss about the child, I end up questioning my own thoughts. He has neglected him in the past and had visitation modified per my request. I work full time as a professional, have the child full time, encourage visitation with his dad, me present. His dad has no friends, I have many. We had a fuss in the school lot months ago because he was late to pick the child up so the school called me to come and pick him up, I was upset and stated in the parking lot that when he was not drinking he was having withdrawal and when he was drinking he was drunk and needed to decide on the alcohol or his child. Well we were at an outing and my son told him that I don’t let him call his dad because he was drunk in front of an older boy.not so. Now he’s blaming me saying that I have caused irrrevok. damage to his relationship with his child. I admit saying this and know my son repeated it to him. Now I feel like I should be in the DOG HOUSE. ANY HELP

I am 23 years old, and am concerned that if something happens to my mom custody of my six-year old brother would go to her abusive/alcoholic ex-husband. Can she write a valid will at home to give me custody just in case? Her ex-husb. has a long criminal record incl. repeat DUI, DWI, Drunk in Public, and Possession charges, so maybe I don’t need to even worry, because a court would see that he is unfit. I work full-time, have my own car, and make enough to support my brother & I, so I like to think I could get custody. Still, I want to know how I can get a will for her done, we don’t have the money for a lawyer….Thanks!