How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My son just completed drug rehab and I’m wondering if any company will give him health insurance now.

My son went through drug rehab one year ago and is doing great. He has not relapsed at all and has set some quality goals for his life and is pursuing them. He is only 21 years old and is currently in vocational training and cannot afford his own medical insurance at this point in time, but I would like to provide that for him. Does anyone know if he’s eligible since he has a history of drug abuse?

The house was once used as a meth house and when it went up for auction I purchased it. Now my son and his wife have lived in it for 3 or 4 years now, but keep feeling run down, and sick. Could it be the meth is causing the problem, if so can we fix the problem?

My son is in a Drug and Alcohol Rehab and has been for 3 months. To work the program, he is looking at 18 months to complete it. So far he is doing good, but often gets depressed. He was addicted to Crack. Crystal Meth and Alcohol. I am not at all familiar with the drugs. If he completes the 18 months, what is the likelihood that he will go back on drugs and what are the long term side effects on his mind and body? He was using for 8 years. And I haven’t seen him in 8 years because of this. We talk on the phone and I send him what he needs until he is own his own. Can someone enlighten me on the chance of getting my ole son back to normal? Thanks so much!
I forgot to mention that my son is 32.
Where my son is, they will not give him any medications. They do not believe in it.

I have been dealing with a meth addict son for almost 8 years now. it consumes my life. his teeth are rotten and black. the teeth problem alone is enough to kill him. how do i not let this effect me daily? i am now raising his two kids..It kills me that he does this, i have tried everything…

should i start not talking about him and foucus on other things?

everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.

he has abused many substances and i fear that he has used crystal meth lately with is uncle

Than you all for mailing me about my son. ok, I live in Illinios, my son is in Phoenix. i have looked to see if he has any warrants, doesn’t. so i tried for jail. I have wrote every show on tv that there is, nothing..He has been to rehab SEVERAL TIMES. I do not give him any money or anything like that. At times when he calls me he is crazy, i have tried to have him commited. i do go to alanon, but truthfully not enough. I have tried to get his dealer arrested but he gets it all over the place..see what i mean? and the meth mouth poison helps make him crazier than just the drugs. sometimes he writes me or calls and thinks i am still in az…It’s sad

My son is 17 years old, and has a severe drug addiction problem. He’s on nearly every Hallucinogen, and smokes marijuana daily. He won’t go into a drug rehab program, we’ve tried before. Can I commit him without his consent? I’ve heard before that at 17 he needs to sign a consent form, which he won’t. But there must be a way to get him help, he’s not even 18 yet. We live in Vermont if that helps. Thank you for your answers, we greatly appreciate them.

I have heard of an MRI checking for brain damage. He has expressive language disorder, also problems with comprehension, retention of information, and receptive language. He is 5, still puts things in his mouth, cannot understand me sometimes. I’m scared hes misdiagnosed. No one will help. I have tried a Pediatrician (medi-cal) the school speech person, an aoption social worker, etc.
They all pass it onto someone else…. he’s falling WAY behind.

This is long.. please bear with me….
My best friend since I’ve know her drinks alcohol constantly. It used to be 5-7bottles of beer every evening. She had weight loss surgery, and slimmed way down. she was told she was to have no alcohol whatsoever. She fought the urge to not drink and beat it. 7 months into the year, at a meeting a few people asked if they could drink and the answer was NO. after the meeting a few other people said they have been drinking hard liquor which had much less to nearly no calories. my friend started experimenting with hard liquor and got rehooked quickly. she is now into 1 bottle of wine per night. Weekends, sometimes 2 bottles. She also smokes very heavily during the day as well.
I have known her for 14 years. since she has lost her weight, she started going out to bars and lounges and has met an incredible amount of new people of whom she sees as her extended family. these people are constantly drinking and every picture I see with them in it is usually in a bar. They go out to the lake and camping and it’s just a drinking frenzy.
My friend says she is a social drinker and it’s not a problem as she swears she doesn’t drive when she drinks, I know she has and her car is proof.
When she drank beer you’d never know she was drinking. She could walk a straight line in high heels. with the wine, I’ve noticed she doesn’t have that ability. If she isn’t at the bars, her house has 3-4 people of which bring some sort of booze.
I have tried to talk to my friend about her drinking and it becomes a huge verbal fight. At times when she’s sober and we talk, she’ll sometimes admit she needs to get her drinking under control and has admitted she’s an alcoholic, but refuses to do anything about it. I think she’s waiting for a pill or something to help her stop. she’s trying this pill to stop smoking but it isn’t working.

Several of us who know and love this lady want to help her. We have agreed that at least 1 of us at all times would accompany her to an AA type meeting for support and would be her support group.
We can’t do an intervention because her family drinks “socially” and constantly. Her brother brews his own beer because there’s nothing stronger that he can buy. Her family does not drink like my friend does, but she is always around alcohol of some sorts. her new found bar friends all drink, and I know she’s drinking more and more because of them, not to fit in, but probably because it’s there and “free flowing”.
Her skin used to be flawless, now she has wrinkles showing and her voice is choppy and sounds like she has phlem in her throat all the time. Her son who’s going to be 14 has asked her to stop drinking and he gets ignored as she says it’s only 1 glass. (it is.. that he sees).

I need advice on how I can help my friend. she’s a great person, and I only forsee things getting worse for her. I have been waiting for a chance to talk to her when she’s in that “vulnerable” state, but it hasn’t happened. and the times it has it’s very brief and I’m not able to get the dialogue started.
I have to find a place to go for an AA type meeting that will actually help.
She’s made several friends who were court ordered into a country AA type program. after they got out of the meeting they all went to the bars or went to her place & started drinking.
I’m afraid my friend will resort to this because she thinks she know the program and just has to follow the steps and she’ll do it when she’s ready.
I unfortunately have also been waiting for something severe to happen to where she has to face it. dents & scrapes on her car aren’t enough. she crashed into a curb & hit a small tree. she lied & said she avoided a dog. Well she got away with it. I don’t want anyone to get hurt, ever!
However something hard has to hit her that she has to face before I think she’ll have to acknowledge her actions.
I have ideas & plans.. but her silver tongue seems to always prevail.

Please.. any advice will help! Thank You.

My son goes over there on weekend (court ordered). I found out in september that my son’s uncle is living there with him and he is recovering from meth. How can I get my son’s dad to realize that his brother in law is a meth addict and will always be one

If that’s the right word.

For instance, I attend AA meetings. There, I occasionally am faced with a certain race of people who, under the cloak of “sharing”, regularly judge and demean other members while bragging about their “sobriety”, “gratitude”, and accomplishments.

In today’s AA meeting, for example, the speaker was a young man who will be celebrating one year of recovery this month. His story included Latin American parents who brought him to the United States at the age of two, but neglected to apply for citizenship for him. That created problems that began in his adolescence and have continued throughout his adult life. His eventual marriage of convenience to get papers failed when his wife, ten years older and an American citizen, intentionally hid a pregnancy from him. His accumulated anger at his own dependency and her trickery eventually resulted in his being arrested for an assault — on his own infant son.

He did not try to excuse any of this but instead spoke with great regret, and expressed hope and thanks that he had at least kept his sobriety thorough the ordeal, and been able to find legal support and through the rehabilitated relationship with his estranged parents — been able to at least secure bail and try to face his situation while free to attend meetings and whatever his fate might be, including the possible deportation that his former wife was pressing for. It was a moving and courageous story to hear.

When he had finished and the time came for others to share, one man (a well-to-do yuppie) spoke up and said, “Well, with my seven years of sobriety I can tell you that what you’ve gone through is nothing compared to what I have.” And so on. Another gave what amounted to a priestly absolution.
They made me sick. I spoke up and said what I felt in general and anonymous terms, doing my best to respect the AA tradition of avoiding direct response to what others said. But I was really angry, and I think most saw me as more of a problem than a help to the meeting.

Now I know modern convention says to ignore people like this and what they say. But my own experience shows that doing so is no solution at all — that such people are like termites who, under the cover of righteous superiority, gnaw away at whatever social environment they inhabit. In the same vein I heard Karl Rove blustering on television the other night, full of pomp about he and his ilk will soon return to the position of power they deserve when the general public forced to admit that those who have taken their place will be seen to be wrong. But the disastrous consequences that do occur when his folks and their policies are allowed to take root and flourish are all too obvious. They are as tireless and destructive as cancer.

So the question is, what to do — how to maintain some sort of serenity and remain socially useful rather than becoming a crazed firebrand myself when faced with stuff like this?
S: Over !2 years AA “time”, as they say. And Level 6 here, by the way.

Like the man said: “Just the facts, Ma’am.”
‘Bigot’ — definition:

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/Bigot

A Mother’s Agony
Schizophrenic, drug addict son put her through ‘hell’ for years, then burned down their home
Doug Ward and Frances Bula, with files from Kelly Sinoski, Vancouver Sun
Published: Wednesday, April 18, 2007
For years Helga Knippelberg’s schizophrenic son demanded that she give him money to feed his drug habit.

She would give him cash or cheques. Often she would borrow money from neighbours. If she refused his request for money, Ronald Knippelberg would regularly threaten to harm her or burn down their large east Vancouver house.

“It’s been horrible. No one can imagine,” Helga Knippelberg, 74, recalled Tuesday. “I’m not even afraid to go to hell because that man has put me through hell.”

Helga Knippelberg, 74, stands Tuesday by what’s left of her home of 51 years after it was burned to the ground Monday night by her son, Ronald, 47.
Ian Smith, Vancouver Sun

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Font: ****On Monday night, fire destroyed their house at 1091 East 21st Ave. Ronald Knippelberg, 47, was arrested by police after he escaped the three-alarm blaze by jumping out a second-storey window. He has been charged with arson and uttering a threat.

“I’ve lost everything, furniture, everything,” said Helga Knippelberg, standing beside the ruins of her home, where she had lived for 51 years, the day after the fire.

The German immigrant was accompanied by her daughter, Doris Fischer and a grandson, and embraced by neighbours and long-time friends — all of whom had watched with horror and fear for many years as Helga Knippelberg struggled with her son’s mental illness and his insatiable appetite for drugs.

She said her son was diagnosed with schizophrenia at age 17 after being sent to Riverview psychiatric institute by a judge.

He later became hooked on injection drugs while in prison, said his mother. Anger management therapy never worked and he wouldn’t take medication.

She described her son as someone “who hasn’t a friend in the world.”

Doris Fischer said her brother always refused therapy. “He never felt there was anything wrong with him. It was all of us who were the ones who were off.”

The mother hopes that her son finally gets the help that he never received before.

“I am hoping that somebody realizes that he needs help. He still has longer to live than I do.”

Helga Knippelberg said that on the day of the fire, her son had been berating her for not giving him enough money for drugs. She gave him a cheque, but he wanted some more. He needed another hit of whatever drug he was using that day — crack cocaine or heroin.

Her son, like most drug addicts, can’t accept the word “no,” said Helga Knippelberg.

“When they do drugs, they are in a completely different world. It’s unexplainable. Unexplainable.”

He had already spent about $1,400 on drugs since March 7, when he was released from jail, she added, and had gone beyond the money limit she had set for him.

“He was in a very big need of a fix,” said Helga Knippelberg. He demanded that she borrow some money from a neighbour and she refused. She lay down on the chesterfield and he began walking up and down the stairs, appearing more and more hyper.

His behaviour became so worrisome that she decided to phone the police. He had already broken the downstairs phone so she ran across the street and asked a neighbour to call 911 just after midnight.

The police emergency response team appeared and then 38 firemen in 11 trucks.

Const. Tim Fanning said that a police negotiator tried to talk the “very upset, very distraught” suspect into leaving the house. But he had barricaded the door and the police couldn’t enter.
But what is the tort for the civil case and the mens reas and actus reas for the criminal case?
mostly you all are saying its a criminal case but then what is the mens reas and actus reas for it?

has been clean for two and a half years met a girl now pregnant she has no job he is supporting her and trying to make a home for her and himself only on his income rejected him from an income based apt due to his felony. i dont understand why this is allowed when he wants nothing more than a chance to make he life better.

my husband was in rehab for 7 months straight out of prison. he was out only a month and a half until he relapsed last week. he had to stay in jail for 5 days. he told me the reason why he relapsed is because we always fight. we always fight because i don’t trust him. why should i? he’s lied to me numerous times in the past that he quit doing drugs and going to aa/nn meetings when he was still using. he also has a addictio to lying. i think he might be a pathilogical lier because he lies about anything and everything to everyone including his family. we fight alot because i always call him on his lies. he got kicked out of his half way house last week when he told me and his roommate he would be going to jail because his couselor sent his UA to the lab and the results will be coming back positive. his room mate yelled at me, told him he should leave me because my husband blames me for the reason why he does drugs and relapses all the time. i viewed his criminial record online jus now because he said he doesn’t know when he has to go back to court because he’s in drug rehab. this is what it says on the court minute text.

DEFENDANT ADMITTED TO COURT THAT HE RELAPSED AND
SHOULD HAVE ASKED FOR HELP WHEN HE HAD ARGUMENT
WITH HIS WIFE. COURT ADVISED DEFENDANT TO CALL
SITC OR SUPPORT SYSTEM FOR ASSISTANCE. COURT
DIRECTED DEFENDANT TO SET UP CRISIS PREVENTION
PLAN, USE IT AND PROTECT HIMSELF WHEN THE SAME

see he blames me for his drug addiction. why can’t the judge and his councelor see that his drug addiction is his fault and not mines. i don’t know what he says about me to them. i had called his councelor 2 weeks ago and left her message saying to test my husband because i think he is using again. of course he died it. he said he wasn’t using at the time and the reason he relapsed is because i told his councelor he was using which he claimed he wasn’t using at that time yet. he tells people i’m crazy and i only say these things because im mad at him. he says i stalk him because i don’t believe him that he’s going to his na/aa meetings which is so not true. i’ve only been to one aa meeting with recently. the other times he says i can’t come because he doesn’t want me to come and we fight about it because i don’t believe he’s actually going because he’s lied about attending them in the past. he’s also been to a meetings before when he was high. if he’s really going i don’t know why he won’t show me his meeting papers anymore. when he first got out he would show me his paper that was signed by the person in charge of the meeting and now he makes some lame excuse he lost them when i found it in his bag when i was looking threw them. i knew he was lying because he said he lost wallet with his meeting paper, debit card and some cash that was in their because he called me from the store and said he was buying dinner. i told him i thought you lost it, he said someone sent it to him in the mail at the half way house. the only address in his wallet is his id from our house. their was no address with his half way house address on it. i can’t believe he blames me and the courts believe everything he says. they blame me too. should i jus divorce him. i don’t know how much i can take of this anymore. he told me the councelors said to get a restrianing order on me because i left a message telling his councelor to test him for drugs. i don’t know why they would say that since he won’t tell me what he told them.

after all this i love him still. we’ve been together for 12 years since i was 15. married for only 3 and our son will be 6 next month. i’m afraid my son wants to be like my husband because’s he’s been misbehaving in school alot and when i ask him why he says he doesn’t want to be good. he wants to be bad. what should i do? i’m avoiding my husbands calls right now.
i also have depression and social anxiety. i’ve always suffered depression but every since my husband started using drugs its gotten worse. i guess he blames me like how i blame his for why i feel sad and isolate myself all the time but its hard when someone you love abuses drugs, lies to you and blames you for the reasons why they do what they do. i can’t believe he would do this. his jus lost his dad in december due to drugs. his real mom and step mom also died from drugs. i don’t know why he is doing this. sometimes i jus want to end my life because i don’t have anyone only my husband, my son, my mom and my brother. i don’t have anyone i can confide in because like i said i have social anxiety. i don’t have any friends to talk to and my therapist can’t see me until june 3rd because he’s booked.

letting traffic violations, seat belt, speeding, out of date sticker, etc…all pile up and now he is in a “CORRECTIONAL FACILITY” for 6 months. Okay, first..he is a high school drop-out, he was spoiled rotten as a teen, his first “Job” was working with a guy cutting trees. At the end of the first week he got paid…week 2 he gets a bottle of 120 hydro’s (hydrocodone, I guess) and the guy tells him, “Man you can sell these and make way more than what I was supposed to pay you” (yeah, right!! he was 17 his dad and I had no knowledge until WAY after the fact. So, blah, blah, he gets hooked on pills, stole stuff, pawned stuff whatever it took to get his “fix”. He finally ended up on methadone. This is the stuff they give people to get off some street drug, ie..heroine? So, me and his dad finally figure out all this and end up taking him to a methadone clinic every day for 6 months. They are supposed to dose him down and get him off of it. They gave him more and he ends up worse than when he started!(Yes, daddy and I paid every day to try to help our son get off drugs) We find out that this so-called clinic makes MILLIONS of dollars a year keeping people hooked on methadone. I call whoever I can think of to tell them…news, police, lawyers,,etc.. NOTHING is done. The clinic is still open. Anyway, we refuse to take him anymore, he goes ballistic! screaming,cussing me-his own mother! We kick him out. He is like a little bloodsucker moving from friend to friend until he comes here begs on his knees to let him stay here until he gets off it and will I please help him through withdrawal? Yes, he did it it was awful, gross, disgusting, but we did it. Now he tries to find a job, finds some keeps them a while, starting getting tickets, speeding, then he got his license revoked. Lets the tickets pile up again and ends up in jail again, he knows he can’t live here anymore, he is now 23,no drivers license, homeless, no car, no diploma. Can you imagine what is going through his mind? I know you cops see all kinds of stuff. But what is the answer? He already knows he MESSED up bad! He admits it, We all know this, we know where mistakes were made. Is his life over at 23? He is off drugs because he says he can’t get pills in jail. But, when he gets out what is he supposed to do? Police officers, law enforcement agencies, judges, lawyers…anybody…especially police I know you see pitiful stuff all the time, He knows where he made his mistakes and wishes to God that he could start over….can he? please give me suggestions, comfort, prayers anything but smart-eleck remarks. I really don’t need that I need help, he needs help he knows that. Please please put yourself in his shoes and give me suggestions, nice ones, (even if YOU would never do anything like that) Officers I know things like this go through your mind, suggestions, encouragement….anything?
why thank-you officer ICET that is exactly what I needed to know..
ISAID WE KNOW WE MESSED UP, LETTING HIM DROP OUT, WE KNOW
could a REAL police officer with a heart answer my question, I don’t need preaching. He is going to come out of jail with no where to go, no food to eat,no way to get to the GED school. He IS paying for his actions by being in jail. , how does a homeless person become a responsible citizen? He is sorry, he is ready to start fresh he has realized the error of his ways. I am talking the DAY he gets out…how does he start?