This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
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This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last year the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
A preacher in my town got busted recently using Oxycontin that was not prescribed to him, and there are rumors he is also addicted to meth.
A month ago, the SON of a POLICE CHIEF near my town was arrested in another state while purchasing heroin.
Why are people such hypocrites when it comes to drugs?
Instead of condemning drugs and drug users, why can’t they speak more honestly, and say something like,
“Well, drug use can be bad, and it can cause you medical problems. But drug users and addicts should be treated with compassion. Their problem is a medical problem, not a criminal problem.”
Why can’t we ever get that sort of sense out of these hypocrites?
about 3yrs ago i got a call from my dad stating that my sister’s husband was making meth in their apartment, he husband was very abusive to her and myself i lived with her and him for a few month and while there he would beat my sister i would have to rip him off of her and take matters into my own hands well when i moved out i guess a few months later he started making meth in their apartment he used to buy it, do it and sell some their apartment got raided and my sister got charged with 3 counts of child endangerment and was put in jail her kids were taken away and placed with his parents. They are unfit parents, their sons are both meth addicts and they support their habits bail them out of jail, etc… my sister has done everything the courts have asked her to do to get her kids back and everytime they go to court they claim she hasnt done something she was supposed to. I want to step in and get guardianship of them but not really sure how i would go about doing it. i am planning on getting a house big enough for them i have two boys of my own. those girls are not getting taken care of the way they should be. my sisters mother and father in law put chloe who was 3 or 4 at the time on medication because she wouldnt sit still and said she had ADD i dont know who in their right mind would put a TODDLER on medication like that she went from being bubbly and happy 24/7 to a walking zombie. i want those kids out of their so bad, i just want to see them happy again the way they used to be. They live in Iowa so how would i go about that in iowa courts.
ok ill try to keep it short. mom ,23 year old son, and 16 year old son all lived together. older brother moved out when he got his girlfriend pregnant. mom can no longer afford rent because of i think meth addiction and because older son who was splitting rent moved out. she is completely capable of affording the full rent with her income she just spends her money unwisely and cant seem to manage it. she hasnt been able to make rent the past 3 times. she got a car title loan to pay it one month which bought her a little time but just seemed to dig her hole deeper. she is over her head in debt faces eviction, losing her car, and possibly her job with her “tweaked” out mentality. i am the older brother and im pretty much all shes got family wise, besides my 16 year old brother. it hurts to see my brother suffer like this. i have the money to help her, but i just cant afford to bail her out this time with my kid on the way. what do i do?
i cant take them in if they get evicted
What can I do to help my B/F, she just went through her 3rd divorce, and I am really worried about her. Let me try and set this up for you. Her first husband, she was married to him for only a year and half, had 1 son. After her first son was born her mother-in-law started trying to run things tell her what to do and where she had to be and who to do it with, would show up unannounced and (she had a c-section) and go in and wake the baby and tried to take over everything so any way they divorced. Then she married her 2nd husband and they were married for 10 years (don’t know how), he was an alcoholic and addicted to meth. She did have another son with him, and tried to make things work and tried for 10 years, but finally because of the drinking and the drugs she divorced him. Now she married what we all thought was an awesome guy he was in the Navy and he took her and the boys to Connecticut with him and then on to Hawaii and then to Texas, they were married 5 years (no kids) and then when she had came home for a visit just before Christmas last year, he was to follow a few days later, and he did, but when he got here he CALLED her and told her he wanted a divorce, and well they got one. Now she is like this deep dark depression and all she does is take anything that will put her to sleep, she is living with her Dad so that he can help her with her boys, she stays in her room does not come out, she does nothing just lays in the bed day in and day out. I dont know what to do for her I want my B/F back and the boys need their mother back what can I do to help her get out of this funk that she has been in for over a year now?
Thanks for your help in Advance and Merry Christmas & Happy New Year
When I put B/F I ment Best Friend……….not Boy Friend.
My husband and I are trying to get full custody of his son. The mother is on drugs, was arrested last year for pos. of meth, and then indicted this year. We have pictures that show where she put bruises all over my step-son’s legs for spilling something on a new rug. Her and her mom have taught Dalland, my step-son, to act like a girl. He hardly plays with boy toys, he is attracted to girl things. He is better some, but he gets picked on at school. We just don’t know what to do. We have a lawyer, but we don’t have the money to go to court. Is there anyway around the money issue?
PLEASE DO NOT SAY ANYTHING BAD ABOUT MY SONS MOM. we dated for a year and i broke up with her. we ended up getting back together shortly after for about 3 months and then i broke up with her again. A couple months later she ended up getting pregnant by me. I never got back with her but supported her throughout the pregnancy and also did not date. instantly when my son was born she tried everything to keep me from him (i am an excellent dad not some criminal meth smoking child abuser – i love my son) she had made up many lies and we went straight to court. i have since been in a horrible legal battle just to see my son at all for almost a year.
her mom is a sociopath.
my sons mom really wanted to get back together and wanted all time the time to know if i loved her.
what is likely going on with her? i want this to end.
I have been doing meth for 2 years now. I blame my problem on my mom whom I watched doing it till she went to prison. My dad is dead so I never had a role model growing up. I have stolen all my wifes jewelry just about and cashed in all my kids college bonds. I have flirted with life insurance my habit is so bad. I owe every black dope dealer money and now I am facing jail time for my charge 1 year ago. The doctors wont see me anymore cause of my abuse on drug perscription pills so I am faced having to get my oldest son to retrieve my medication. How do I turn life around?
My grandaughter was born June 05 with meth found in maconium. Parents had phsyical custody and State of NV having custody. They rec. custody just at deadline. In July 06 grandson born, again meth . CPS took custody placing them out of home & with me. CPS has plan for parents to follow & to be done by 7/07. were voted into drug court 12-15mos.. had 4-5 weeks in, fathers UA failed, arrested for 5 days. starts over with DC .CPS states to me: to think if I want to adopt .Don’t believe parents will make the deadline date.. (I ‘m 49, kids are 16 mo and 4 mo It has been a hard 4mos. Parents want me to then let them live with them.. I”M sure you can’t do that. I feel, I’m the one doing the WORK,some 0 nites sleep .0 LIFE., My man of 7 yrs has left.cuz of it all! They go do whatever , no clue what it takes for 2 kids 24/7. I LOVED JUST BEING GRANDMA ANY SUGGESTIONS? love my babies more than ever.also wonder if later theyhave prob from meth? the father is my son not 1 bit proud of
I am having the hardest time getting over it. He was so in love with me and then out of the blue started using bad drugs (meth) and one day just left!! He left me with our 3 yr old son and now he has a new girlfriend (a known drug addict). I can’t seem to understand how he could do this to me, what should I do to get over it…
My sons father is a criminal, addicted to meth, and assaulted me in my home while I had the baby in my arms. I called the police they took him to jail for warrants out of another county. I didnt pursue the charges but did file a report…I know I was an idiot, but was just happy that he would be in jail for what I thought was a couple of years. Boy was I wrong, he only served 3 months in jail, he is due out next week. My son and I moved after the assault….will I be in trouble for moving? He doesnt know our address and frankly, Im worried if he knows where I am living he will come back and this time things will be worse. We have a case with the TX attorney General, he is 15 grand behind on child support, the papers state I have to give him my address and contact number for the baby…..What do I do? Attorney I spoke to is wanting a 3500.00 retainer fee, legal aid wont help because they claim I am above the income level….Im freaking out here! It’s too late to pick the assalt charge up….I’ve already checked….
I suspect that my elderly neighbor is the victim of emotional and financial abuse. She has her son and daughter living with her and they are both mistreating her terribly. The daughter screams at her all day and leaves her nothing to eat when she is out. There have been times when my neighbor has tried to cook for herself but was unable to, one time she unknowingly put metal in the microwave and caused a fire. My husband heard the fire alarm and helped her out of the house while I put out the fire. That’s when it was brought to our attention that she was not getting the help she needed. To make matters worse her son is a drug addict (meth) and steals her belongings even her medication than screams at her when she confronts him or asks where her pain pills are. Not to mention that they both had access to her bank account and she is not missing a total of $13,000.00 1/2 of the money she was saving for an “elders community” (it’s a fancy nursing/end of life home)
Is there someone I can call about this? I live in The San Fransisco Bay Area, California, USA.
I meant to say she is now missing $13K. Sorry I have a tenancy to type faster then I should and it causes typos.
FACTS: Stern was fully aware that Anna Nicole’s son died of a drug overdose. Anna Nicole died of an overdose. Stern claims to be the baby’s father. Anna Nicole tried to kill herself in a pool and Stern told her ‘she could have put him in jail if he did this’, Anna tried to call family and her best friend for help but ‘someone’ hung up in the middle of her calls, she was on Meth and other drugs during her pregnancy.
Drugs, the death of her son, depression, drugs throughout the pregnancy. If Sterms cared so much about her, why did he not get her into rehab even if he had to have her committed.
If the baby is brain damaged due to those drugs, did he think she would die or he could put her in some institution while he profits from all these drugs.
What, my sensible friends, is your opinion? Why doesn’t Stern just take the DNA test? Does anyone think he really cares about this baby.
There seems to be no justice in this situation.
No, I do not watch ‘E’ t.v. I got may info from Court TV, MSNBC and FOX as well as my local channels.
I have read these books in the past couple of months:
“Wayne” By: Wayne Theodore
“Waiting With Gabriel” By: Amy Kuebelbeck
“The Memory Keeper’s Daughter” By: Kim Edwards
“The Glass Castle” By: Jeannette Walls
“A Child Called ‘It’ ” By: David Pelzer
“The Lost Boy” By: David Pelzer
“A man named Dave” By: Dave Pelzer
And I plan to read these 2 books next:
“Beautiful Boy” By: David Sheff
“Tweak” By: Nic Sheff
Beautiful Boy” is a father’s journey through his son’s addiction to meth; “Tweak” is Nic’s journey through meth. David and Nic are father and son.
Do you have any other recommendations that are in the same genre as the books I just read? As you can see I like memoirs and stories of survivers of abuse. I love to read so if I do get my hands on the next 2 books I plan to read, I’ll be done within weeks, so I still would like to hear what you recommend.
Thx!
No Longer Dizzy: Yes I do. You will also not be able to put it down. I put alot of people around on “ignore” while reading that book. lol
My sister has a 4 month old that is pre teething. This is her 1st child and he was born addicted to crack,meth, and herione,
( He is not her biological son,but hers never the less)
He is a perfect child with a clean bill of health(SO FAR) The problem is he is PRE TEETHING. He will not take a pacifer or a chewing ring or wash cloth. HE only wants his hands. I told her to give him Advil to take the edge off but due to the fact he was born addicted to so many things she wants to try and only give pain meds such as Advil and Tylenol only as truly needed.
I recommended trying Hylands Teething Tablets. Does anyone have any other advice. Because we all know you have to try them all before you find the one that works for you.
Thank you for your help.
Hello..the mother of my son fell into trouble with meth and dcfs took my son and her other son out of her custody. I didn’t get custody because she argued in court that I haven’t had any parenting classes, and so my son is in foster care until I complete the classes. She has been found unfit. My question is what kind of rights does she have compared to me. The reason I ask is because she is giving the foster parent a rough time by demanding that things get ran her way at the foster home. The foster mother is a very nice older lady and has confessed to me that she is feeling bullied by her and the dcfs agents relay the demands to the foster parent as well. The mother of my son is now trying to get my son put into a different foster home. I think this is ludicris and I am curious if I have the power to stop this, what rights do I have, and does she even have a right to see the kids as an unfit parent?
First of all, I’d like to start by saying I do pay rent to my parents and by 0 means am I a leecher. This statement is for the trigger-happy answerers who aren’t interested in reading succinctly.
Two, I define my version of “everyone” as civilized adults over the age of 18. Unfortunately there is no “adult” section on yahoo answers so I am forced to post here. For children (and also the children-minded adults), I suggest you continue to point your browser elsewhere.
I consider myself lucky. I have a decent job, a 4 year related college degree which I paid for completely out of pocket, $0 in combined debt (2 credit cards, paid car loan, paid student loan), $0 in medical bills, and I’m also in my early 20′s. At any time I can walk out and throw money away by getting an apartment or rent a condo. But I’d rather buy a house than throw my money away – and I consider paying interest a form of throwing away money. I fortunately “get along” with my parents and I have no other siblings to live with. They are happy with me as well, since I provide them with extra income and they no longer need to “provide” me with anything, save a single room. I would also assume they are lucky as well, they need not worry about having a meth addict for a son (I overhead this once while shopping at a liquor store recently – same age), or else having to provide for a leecher. I pay for everything I take for myself, whether it be food, car insurance, electricity bill, water bill, cable bill, ect. I know people who couldn’t stand their family and walked out at 18 and several years later can *just* barely make it month to month on rent and are also unable to get into a “career” because of the constant duty job work and lack of educated skill. I ask them if it was still worth it living in a run-down house in a bad neighborhood with no foreseeable future in mind, and their response: “hell yes.”
Anyways before I get too caught up in my own question, I’d like to state I do have a well-defined financial plan in mind, I see myself owning a very nice $350K house by age 28, no higher – with a combined $0.00 paid in mortgage interest. Assuming I can still apply myself as today, I will retire earlier than most and still cross the “million” barrier of financial worth. I know that with every year I live at home, I am saving hundreds of thousands of dollars in the process. Now I ask “everyone”, is all of this money worth the petty embarrassments like, bringing home a “casual encounter” you meet at a bar which may have been simpler if you had your “own place”?
Why the negative connotation in American society? Why the lack of life-planning? Why the disappointment in self when claiming living situation? Why chose to be the slave to a bank? What is normal?
Thank you to those who can provide a perceptive and rational dialogue.
