I am in the worse of situations. I am from Europe and came here to achieve the American dream. Now, I am married to a man with mental issues and to top it off nine months pregnant. My family in Europe is poor and cannot help me. My life was so promising. I started out as a successful fashion model and traveled all over the world making a lot of money. Then I went back to school and was doing really good attending college full time and working. Then I met my husband and all my problems started. I admit I married him way to quick and his extreme neediness sucked me into a spiral I couldn’t get out of. He lied to me from the get go, and when I tried to leave him, he completely lost it and threatened to kill himself. I obviously was worried that he really might hurt himself and stayed. I stayed through all his weekly intoxicated ventures and irresponsible behaviors, I stayed through all his insane shopping sprees I even stayed when I found out that he had much less money than he really had. I stayed and stayed and always tried to see the best in him and hope that perhaps one day a miracle might bring some stability in this insanity. My savings soon dwindled and so did my sense of control. Three years after meeting him, I quit college in my third year, my money was gone and I discovered I was pregnant. During this whole pregnancy his mental health has gotten even worse. He started abusing everything that came in his hands, from taking Ambien and driving to excessive dosages of Lorazepam and alcohol. During my pregnancy he started yelling at me in public, tried to jump out a window and I had to hold him back smashed his head through a car’s windshield and was put into a mental institution after driving erratically in March 2009 and causing two car accidents in one day. I had hope that he could get the help he needed, but couple of months later, he stopped going to his AA meetings, I caught him with Ambien, never once was there for me or attempted to be of any support. He couldn’t even clean the littler box during my pregnancy. It is always about him and nobody else. He was on bipolar medication for the past months and nothing seemed to help. Then, three days ago, he mixed his bipolar medication with alcohol again and completely went off the deep end again. He is now in a mental institution again. He comes from a rich family (his father is a doctor), but himself has no money, just debt. He was a medical resident and got kicked off his first year due to who knows what. He now most likely will lose his new position as well. I am going to have the baby exactly one month from now and I am at the end of my robe. I have no money, I am two semesters short of having finished my education, I am thousands of miles away from my home country and I have a complete psycho husband. I am still in love with him and when I married him, I promised to stick with him through good and bad, but when does the bad become inexcusable? Hi parents are about as unsupportive as it gets. They haven’t even called me for two days to ask how their son or I am doing. A part of me feels really bad for my husband and I do want to help him, but another part just about had it.
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My oldest son is almost 20 years old. He is definitly on the wrong road. I believe he is doing crystal meth again after being clean for almost 3 years. When he was 16 he got into and ended up in all kinds of trouble with the law. When I found out what he was doing I turned him in myself and he ended up going to DYS, a juvenile prison for a little over a year. He hated me at first but we worked thru it and for awhile I actually felt like he was greatful that I did it. Now I see him spiraling down the same road. He wont admit it to me..he actually avoids me if at all possible. He doesnt live with me so he feels its none of my buisness. I have cut him off totally financialy. I just dont know what else I can do to help him now or make him see what hes doing to himself. He has a little boy that is almost a year old that he is not allowed to see. Ever since he and his girlfriend broke up and she refuses to let him see the baby things have been awful. This is when the drugs started again. I am willing to do anything and everything in my power and beyond to save my son. I keep hoping and praying for a way to do it without turning him in to cops. When I try to talk to him he either blows it off like im over reacting or gets angry with me and leaves. Has anyone been thru anything similar? Any advice you would like to share?
For the record, I didnt send him anywhere, the judge did and yes while in jail he was in a rehab program. I dont feel I failed him, I feel I saved him. I would rather him in a place getting help then have him runaway and end up killing himself.
The drugs/alcohol are out of control. He drives/drunk or high and avoids getting caught. He dissappears for days. He never pays taxes. He uses the Emergency Room as a doctors office and never pays the bill. He refuses drug treatment voluntarily. I am at the end of my rope. I want to see him stopped, but not go to jail. I want to see him court ordered into an inpatient rehab center, where he can get some help. How can I alert the authorities, so they can find him drunk driving or in posession of drugs, and know that the judge will NOT put him in jail, but order mandatory rehab?? I’ll even pay for the rehab if it isn’t too expensive. But, I need the court order to make sure he stays for the entire period. If he doesn’t, then the judge can throw him in jail. Who do I contact at the state, county or township level to ASK for the Rehab sentence ahead of time??
My son is 25 y/o.
When my husband and I started dating his son was still an infant. He kicked his ex girfriend out finally because she was abusive. Punching him in the faace over and over until he bled from his eyes and one night it was so bad he almost died. She was really bad with cocaine, crack and smoking weed so he just said this is not the environment our son needs and I honestly don’t even love you enough to make something like this work. Unfortunately for me this situation did not get any better. In the last almost 4 years I have had to deal with her being homeless, finding her a place to stay, making sure that I tucked in her son every night and told him that I loved him and mommy loved him too just so he wouldn’t wonder why mommy hadn’t called or came to get him in three weeks, I’ve delt with her crazy screaming fights over my husband trying to look out for the best interests of his child. She is honestly completely insane and has many many many mental problems. She has a very long history of abuse with her family and witnessed her father kill her mother so it’s understandable that she would be a little off balance, but I have taken up her slack and raised her child to what he is. We have custody and when she is stable enough we trade him off every other week so she gets him an equal time, but she is barely ever stable enough to do this. She just called today to get him for the weekend because she said she just got a new apartment. This will be her 6th home in 4 months and it’s beginning to confuse my step son. He will go by his old homes and think she still lives there and want to see her, or go to her old jobs and think she still works there and cry until we go in so he can see she isn’t there. She hasn’t been able to keep a steady living environment because she is hooked on drugs so bad she can’t keep a job. She is about to probably go to jail for shopliffting fromher last job. She says she doesn’t do drugs around her son and that when she has him he is safe and happy. I honestly don’t believe it. i have had to buy groceries for her before because she couldn’t feed him. Or go out and buy clothes for him just so she would have something for him to wear. I’m just honestly getting tired of it all. my husband wants his son to have his mother because he never really had his and mine was absent for a very long time. but this environment is not good for him at all. I want my husband to make it so she has to have special visitation rights until we know that she is stable enough to care for him and I’m not sure how to go about saying this to him. He’s afraid she will take off with his son and honestly he is probably right and she would try. I just am at a loss as to what to do.
I’m going to send my son to a drug rehab, and I want to know how I can get information about them.
I am in the worse of situations. I am from Europe and came here to achieve the American dream. Now, I am married to a man with mental issues and to top it off nine months pregnant. My family in Europe is poor and cannot help me. My life was so promising. I started out as a successful fashion model and traveled all over the world making a lot of money. Then I went back to school and was doing really good attending college full time and working. Then I met my husband and all my problems started. I admit I married him way to quick and his extreme neediness sucked me into a spiral I couldn’t get out of. He lied to me from the get go, and when I tried to leave him, he completely lost it and threatened to kill himself. I obviously was worried that he really might hurt himself and stayed. I stayed through all his weekly intoxicated ventures and irresponsible behaviors, I stayed through all his insane shopping sprees I even stayed when I found out that he had much less money than he really had. I stayed and stayed and always tried to see the best in him and hope that perhaps one day a miracle might bring some stability in this insanity. My savings soon dwindled and so did my sense of control. Three years after meeting him, I quit college in my third year, my money was gone and I discovered I was pregnant. During this whole pregnancy his mental health has gotten even worse. He started abusing everything that came in his hands, from taking Ambien and driving to excessive dosages of Lorazepam and alcohol. During my pregnancy he started yelling at me in public, tried to jump out a window and I had to hold him back smashed his head through a car’s windshield and was put into a mental institution after driving erratically in March 2009 and causing two car accidents in one day. I had hope that he could get the help he needed, but couple of months later, he stopped going to his AA meetings, I caught him with Ambien, never once was there for me or attempted to be of any support. He couldn’t even clean the littler box during my pregnancy. It is always about him and nobody else. He was on bipolar medication for the past months and nothing seemed to help. Then, three days ago, he mixed his bipolar medication with alcohol again and completely went off the deep end again. He is now in a mental institution again. He comes from a rich family (his father is a doctor), but himself has no money, just debt. He was a medical resident and got kicked off his first year due to who knows what. He now most likely will lose his new position as well. I am going to have the baby exactly one month from now and I am at the end of my robe. I have no money, I am two semesters short of having finished my education, I am thousands of miles away from my home country and I have a complete psycho husband. I am still in love with him and when I married him, I promised to stick with him through good and bad, but when does the bad become inexcusable? Hi parents are about as unsupportive as it gets. They haven’t even called me for two days to ask how their son or I am doing. A part of me feels really bad for my husband and I do want to help him, but another part just about had it.
My son is a meth addict. He cooks, uses, and sells.
We have no money. Where in Indiana is the best place for him to go to be treated for his methamphetamine addiction? Other locations are ok, I just would not know how to get him to a place far away.
Years of fighting doctors that have him hooked, mood swings, depression, living in a fog, can’t focus, behavior problems that showed up when he started these chemicals at two years old – but it doesn’t “exist” and I’m a “bad parent”. It’s clearly stopping him from accomplishing what HE wants to do in life, the talents he has are not coming out as they should.
Yes, I’ve been all over the FDA website, was on this years ago regarding Singulair that they FINALLY acknowledged as a major problem in many adolescents, but he just gets shoved from one to another. I try to take him off, use food high in antioxidants & anti-inflamatories, lots of vitamin C, but I can’t keep up or control it nor influence him.
I need to find an experienced way that works. He can’t function without these meds now. Playing the trumpet & clearing lungs works, but he’s so fogged, with “A.D.D.” that comes out as O.D.D., so he resists any homeopathic or natural approach. Not a “controlling parent”, just very concerned as I watch this bright kid lose himself – he’s essentially a drug-addict with the help & blessings of pediatricians over the past 15 years, and I’m just a “dingbat”. But I have watched this correlation between behavior patterns and increased chemical usage for 15 years now, it’s so obvious to me but I cannot convince anyone else.
Tired of this pill factory this country has got us on – any tried & true suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Any direct messages to this young man would also be very helpful – my sole voice & efforts have diminishing returns – no good at this point – I’m a “nag”.
Don’t try to sell me anything. Looking for real people who have managed their symptoms or weaned themselves or a loved one off of this stuff.
Thanks much.
Thxs Aeriol- We’ve been thru specific allergies tests, no change in protocol.Asthma has never been acute enough to land him on a nebulizer, but only once 10 years ago.Clearing his lungs via exercise & trumpet works well, but sitting or laying down causes him to cough during allergy season especially.It strongly appears that his body has been relying on these chemicals for so long, that he does need to be re-trained.Switching doctors in July, we’ll see if we can’t get a different approach as you’ve suggested.For any parent with a young child with mild asthma, BE WARNED about this chemical cycle that many doctors put your kids on.There is more data to back up my “gut” feelings about this, I’m no genius, but somebody’s making a lot of money off of these meds & doctors go along with it.Took me 4+ years to get the FDA to support my concerns re: SIngulair & it cost my son, as he lived in a “cloud”, basically “stoned”. With the new “healthcare reform”,it’s only going to get worse. Thx.
I don’t live there but my sister is asking for my help regarding finding a drug rehab for her son. She has just recently found out that her son is taking heroin, and this really shook her up. I have to admit that I’m affected as well. My nephew is a straight A student, the kind of kid who has always been such a good boy. It was just really surprising for me to know this. This must be really tough on my sister, and that’s why I want to do whatever I can to help her. Any suggestions?
Recently I have discovered my friend, (well she’s slowly becoming the non-friend) is a pot head. I dont smoke, drink, or use and shes always telling me to go to a meeting, what is that all about anyway? She thinks she has the right to tell people how to live their lives as far as their sobriety, because she is all high and mighty now and went to jr. college to be a drug rehab counselor. She smoke pot and then goes to AA meetings and talks about how long shes been sober, its really quite pathetic. I understand shes a fraud and a hippacrit. She actually believes its ok to have her non chalant attitude toward her smoking pot daily. She also is fighting for custody of her son, which I’m wondering if i should call the dept. of child services on her, out of my concern for her son. It would give a wake up call and then maybe she will put her life in perspective and climb down from her soapbox and preaching to everyone about how they should be working the program, what a joke. All i want is to get some ideas on how to deal with this person, because she’s sick and needs help and is in total denial, please advise.
so far i think both of these answers are so off the track, i cant choose either one as best answer.
She is a meth addict for over three years and has been enabled by my mother who has decided to put her hands in the air and give up. She says that my addict sister can just leave with her son. What! It is pure dysfunctional drama. But the loser is the little boy. My sister even asked him to pee for her for a drug test my mother was giving her. Should I butt in or stay out.
My sister is financially ruined. I know her daughter and her daughters husband, are hooked on drugs. Amber is always stealing her mothers debit card, writing checks on her. My sister just ignores it, she’s about to loose everything because of her. She doesn’t do anything about it, she thinks her daughter and son in law are the greatest things to walk the earth. For her to keep ignoring what they are doing to her, they have to be drugging her. What should I do, she won’t listen to anyone? Please, I need some advise.
the son is 24, we put him in a faith based rehab because we don’t hve the $ to pay, my husband spend all his time worrying about his son that my daughter and I are left out of everything, it is like I am single again.
hello everybody!
please correct my english…!! i need your help
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i am fine just sleepy, though. thank you for asking.
i am glad you are agree to my opinions.
waking up early and learning were bother me when i was a student.
how far is your house to your schools?
my kindergarten, elementary school, junior high school are near from my house except high school.
i have to go onto the train to go there. it takes about 40 min by train.
yes i will think twice before i do something.
thank you for giving me nice advice ^^
so you currently live with your family. do your siblings live with your family too?
as i told you i have a brother.
my family has onw house, apartment, and office for rent.
my brother will get all. because he is the oldest and only one boy. is it the same in hongkong?
i know swiss people (or maybe europeans) do not give their houses to their children.
people buy houses by themself.
so you dont talk to your parents often. i do not think it is because you are not a good son.
my brother does not talk to my family, and i talk to my family a lot, every day.
but he is a really good kid.
i still only the kid who is scolded by my family.
i am not busy so it is really no problem. i like to help you ^^
oh, you met your friends this evening.
aa, i can understand how you feel very much.
do you like to meet people?
basically i like to meet people but sometimes i feel very tired to meet people.
speaking of meeting people
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thank you very much for your help!!
My son will not stay at home because I told him to stay away from his girl friend who I know is a crystal meth user. Now I only hear from him when he needs something. They stay any where and dont work she getd state aid. I think he is now using the drug
A Mother’s Agony
Schizophrenic, drug addict son put her through ‘hell’ for years, then burned down their home
Doug Ward and Frances Bula, with files from Kelly Sinoski, Vancouver Sun
Published: Wednesday, April 18, 2007
For years Helga Knippelberg’s schizophrenic son demanded that she give him money to feed his drug habit.
She would give him cash or cheques. Often she would borrow money from neighbours. If she refused his request for money, Ronald Knippelberg would regularly threaten to harm her or burn down their large east Vancouver house.
“It’s been horrible. No one can imagine,” Helga Knippelberg, 74, recalled Tuesday. “I’m not even afraid to go to hell because that man has put me through hell.”
Helga Knippelberg, 74, stands Tuesday by what’s left of her home of 51 years after it was burned to the ground Monday night by her son, Ronald, 47.
Ian Smith, Vancouver Sun
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Font: ****On Monday night, fire destroyed their house at 1091 East 21st Ave. Ronald Knippelberg, 47, was arrested by police after he escaped the three-alarm blaze by jumping out a second-storey window. He has been charged with arson and uttering a threat.
“I’ve lost everything, furniture, everything,” said Helga Knippelberg, standing beside the ruins of her home, where she had lived for 51 years, the day after the fire.
The German immigrant was accompanied by her daughter, Doris Fischer and a grandson, and embraced by neighbours and long-time friends — all of whom had watched with horror and fear for many years as Helga Knippelberg struggled with her son’s mental illness and his insatiable appetite for drugs.
She said her son was diagnosed with schizophrenia at age 17 after being sent to Riverview psychiatric institute by a judge.
He later became hooked on injection drugs while in prison, said his mother. Anger management therapy never worked and he wouldn’t take medication.
She described her son as someone “who hasn’t a friend in the world.”
Doris Fischer said her brother always refused therapy. “He never felt there was anything wrong with him. It was all of us who were the ones who were off.”
The mother hopes that her son finally gets the help that he never received before.
“I am hoping that somebody realizes that he needs help. He still has longer to live than I do.”
Helga Knippelberg said that on the day of the fire, her son had been berating her for not giving him enough money for drugs. She gave him a cheque, but he wanted some more. He needed another hit of whatever drug he was using that day — crack cocaine or heroin.
Her son, like most drug addicts, can’t accept the word “no,” said Helga Knippelberg.
“When they do drugs, they are in a completely different world. It’s unexplainable. Unexplainable.”
He had already spent about $1,400 on drugs since March 7, when he was released from jail, she added, and had gone beyond the money limit she had set for him.
“He was in a very big need of a fix,” said Helga Knippelberg. He demanded that she borrow some money from a neighbour and she refused. She lay down on the chesterfield and he began walking up and down the stairs, appearing more and more hyper.
His behaviour became so worrisome that she decided to phone the police. He had already broken the downstairs phone so she ran across the street and asked a neighbour to call 911 just after midnight.
The police emergency response team appeared and then 38 firemen in 11 trucks.
Const. Tim Fanning said that a police negotiator tried to talk the “very upset, very distraught” suspect into leaving the house. But he had barricaded the door and the police couldn’t enter.
What is the mens reas and actus reas?
I was just wondering about this since a friend of mine wants to suggest something to her parents so that they may be able to put their son in the right drug rehab. What are the factors to consider?
her husband kicked her out last week after 20 years of her taking drugs and drinking. They have an autistic son and she was totally out of control. She lived in Seattle I told her she could come down where I live in texas and would help her if she went to AA. she doesn’t want to go when I make her she sleeps. I rented her a place until friday (that will be her here a week) she just hung up on me when I asked why she skipped another meeting. Said I was not her mother. All she wants to do is go stay at my vacation house on the beach and sit in the sun. I want to just leave her where she is let her figure something out herself. My friends say let her go to the coast and stay there. Well what good is that? living in my house just going to the beach taking god knows what. Not sleeping for days. She weighes about zero pounds. If she was your sister what would you do? give her a chance at the beach or just cut my losses. I am exhausted
We are in an area where there is a lot of need for this and my son being a recovering addict himself and my husband with military background, we feel like we could form the correct environment for these people who are hurting so bad. We feel that prison is not the answer for drug addiction.
How would i find him He is over 18 and supposedly moved in with a girlfriend. i ran into an ex friend of his who said he is hooked on drugs now but she does not know where he lives. i tried phone books and looking on the internet- no luck She said he was bad off the last time she saw him on hard drugs. Any ideas what I can do for him?
