How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs? » ALCOHOLISM TREATMENT http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com We will help your son fight his addcitions! Fri, 30 Jul 2010 16:49:44 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 Would it be wrong to server a glass or two of punch (with some alcohol) at my son’s 18 Birthday Party? http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/would-it-be-wrong-to-server-a-glass-or-two-of-punch-with-some-alcohol-at-my-sons-18-birthday-party/ http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/would-it-be-wrong-to-server-a-glass-or-two-of-punch-with-some-alcohol-at-my-sons-18-birthday-party/#comments Fri, 30 Jul 2010 13:24:50 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/would-it-be-wrong-to-server-a-glass-or-two-of-punch-with-some-alcohol-at-my-sons-18-birthday-party/ I’m thinking of having a punch with some rum for my son’s 18th birthday party–Most of my son’s friends are 19 and older (which is the drinking age in Ontario)..so would it really be wrong to have it?

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Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-do-alcoholics-feel/feed/ 5 binge eating?? http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/binge-eating-2/ http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/binge-eating-2/#comments Fri, 30 Jul 2010 06:48:50 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/binge-eating-2/ with my son i was hungry all day and just snacked all day pretty much but this time it’s like food totally disgusts me and then all of a sudden im starving and once i start eating i cant stop until im so stuffed it hurts. im only eating like twice a day. im 13 weeks is this normal???

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/binge-eating-2/feed/ 5 My mom is an Alcoholic? http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/my-mom-is-an-alcoholic/ http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/my-mom-is-an-alcoholic/#comments Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:18:26 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/my-mom-is-an-alcoholic/ My mom is an alcoholic and drinks herself into a coma damn near…she starts at around 7am and is drunk before noon and does this all day until bedtime around 9pm…she is 5 foot tall weighs maybe 100lbs…..she can drink almost an 18 pack aday of beer…..she’s annoying and beligerant when she’s drunk….I have an 8 year old who adores his nana…and i’m expecting another son in a couple months…..i told her the new baby will not be around her as long as she is still drinking….my son visits her but im wondering if i should not let him go over anymore until she gets help….i’ve tried to take her to detox but she won’t go..she won’t go to AA or anything….she doesnt think she has a problem and on top of that she is taking Xanax now….She is Hep C positive and her enzyme levels are elevated (im sure she didnt tell her doctor about her drinking, because he prescribed the xanax)….i dont know what to do…she is married but her busband drinks also (not like her).
her husband refuses to think she has a problem ( I think he doesnt want to lose her, so he turns a blind eye)I love her but i can’t stand to be around her or talk to her on the phone…Should i show some tough love and tell her until she gets help my kids won’t be visiting her?? I’m ready to just wash my hands of her!!!

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/my-mom-is-an-alcoholic/feed/ 4 how to i get a court order to have my son attend a drug and alcohol treatment center? http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-to-i-get-a-court-order-to-have-my-son-attend-a-drug-and-alcohol-treatment-center/ http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-to-i-get-a-court-order-to-have-my-son-attend-a-drug-and-alcohol-treatment-center/#comments Thu, 29 Jul 2010 20:28:37 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-to-i-get-a-court-order-to-have-my-son-attend-a-drug-and-alcohol-treatment-center/ My son who is 17 has a drinking problem. I found two big bottles of vodka in his room and vodka concealed in water bottles in his refrigerator. I have found a treatment center in the area that I have made an appointment with but my son refuses to go saying he doesn’t have a problem. The treatment center said I might have to get a Court order issued. How do I go about doing that if I can’t convince my son to go.

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-to-i-get-a-court-order-to-have-my-son-attend-a-drug-and-alcohol-treatment-center/feed/ 3 How can I find my homeless son? http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-can-i-find-my-homeless-son/ http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-can-i-find-my-homeless-son/#comments Thu, 29 Jul 2010 12:18:59 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-can-i-find-my-homeless-son/ My son is homeless, an alcoholic, street smart, no identification, owns nothing, and hasn’t contacted a family member in 2 years. I found an arrest record 1 yr ago in Texas, got no help calling them, I have filed with a missing persons website…what else can I do?
He did not join a gang…he is 47 years old, not a young man or teenager. He is a loner, have no idea even what state he is in…he gets around. I had a PI look for him too…nothing.

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/how-can-i-find-my-homeless-son/feed/ 3 I don’t know what to make of this- why would she do this to her son? http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/i-dont-know-what-to-make-of-this-why-would-she-do-this-to-her-son/ http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/i-dont-know-what-to-make-of-this-why-would-she-do-this-to-her-son/#comments Thu, 29 Jul 2010 11:49:10 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/i-dont-know-what-to-make-of-this-why-would-she-do-this-to-her-son/ I don’t know what to make of this- why would she do this to her son?
My hubby comes from a family where alcoholism is rampant among several family members. At least two have died gruesome deaths (esophagus ruptured and relative bled to death- the MD said this was caused by heavy drinking that caused liver failure/tension on the esophagus….), hubby’s uncle is unable to work because his alcoholism is so bad, hubby’s aunt has cirhrosis of the liver from drinking and does not qualify for a liver transplant….

I think you get the picture as to what alcohol has done to his extended family members.

Hubby’s Mom does not drink on a regular basis- maybe a glass of wine for special occasions. Hubby’s dad drinks at least 4 beers (his drink of choice) a day (sometimes more). One time his Mom called my hubby in tears (we live 5 states away) because her husband (hubby’s dad) had gone out on a bender and was severely drunk and irrational when he came home. Hubby’s dad was unfairly accused of something at work which led to this drinking binge. Hubby and his Mom do not think hubby’s dad has a drinking problem because he is employed, doesn’t drink on the job, etc.

In other words, he doesn’t have a drinking problem/dependency like the other family members because he is functional.

When hubby and I were dating, his mom mentioned to me- more than once- that she and her husband were ‘relieved’ (her exact word) when hubby went off to college and started drinking , because they were afraid he would ‘never touch alcohol’ . He was a good kid in high school and didn’t drink. The way it was said to me made me think that his Mom thought he was somewhat ‘nerdy’ for not drinking in high school. Hubby’s Mom even made a point to tell the same thing to MY Mom at one point (my Mom was dumbfounded as to why hubby’s mom even told her this).

Throughout the first few years of our marriage, my hubby’s drinking began to escalate. He was drinking 6 or more (sometimes 8-10) beers every night at home. Even though we were financially strapped he continued to spend close to $75 a week on beer alone. He didn’t think it was a problem.

The stress of this along with other things caused severe strain on our marriage. I was about to leave him and drinking was one of the main factors. Hubby decided he ‘did not want to lose his wife and kids’ (his words) and decided to stop drinking. The week he decided to quit coincided with a visit he had planned to see his parents (I was 8 months pregnant at the time and couldn’t go).

Right before dinner he told his parents he had decided to quit drinking because he felt he had developed a problem. He didn’t mention anything about his Dad’s drinking because he still felt his Dad didn’t have a problem- he was only talking about himself and his decision to quit.

At the dinner table his Mom poured him a glass of wine and pushed in front of him and encouraged him to drink it. She said she didn’t think he had a problem with drinking and all he needed to do was just have a few drinks and then stop himself. Hubby said no, but she insisted.

I am having trouble understanding WHY a mother whose own sister and brother have debilitating drinking problems-which she herself has characterized as terrible- would encourage her son to drink when he has announced that he has a drinking problem and is quitting alcohol altogether.

Why would she do that? What do you make of what she did?

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/i-dont-know-what-to-make-of-this-why-would-she-do-this-to-her-son/feed/ 1 what are the chances of my son’s father being made to have SUPERVISED visitation.? http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/what-are-the-chances-of-my-sons-father-being-made-to-have-supervised-visitation/ http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/what-are-the-chances-of-my-sons-father-being-made-to-have-supervised-visitation/#comments Thu, 29 Jul 2010 08:18:50 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/what-are-the-chances-of-my-sons-father-being-made-to-have-supervised-visitation/ my son’s father is a pathalogical liar and uses his children as pawns in his chess game of…getting attention from women, lying, cheating, etc. he’s has a serious selfish problem. he and i were together for six years and in those six years he subjected his children to at least 2 other women and their kids. Now he’s attempting to subject my son to his “new” girlfriend who he met in AA. she’s a pediatric nurse mother of three and a Narcotics Addict. the last girl he cheated on me with thought he lived alone and had this little old dog, for a year he lied to her and continuously took his three kids (one of them, my 3 yr old son) over to her house. While in wal-mart one day, his oldest son, Jamesy asked him, “Daddy, why do you lie to lizzy about where we are going? Daddy why do you live with lizzy when you are seeing Dawn” he told jamesy, “i promise james, i’ll quit cheating on lizzy” at the same time he was buying flowers and asked jamesy to give them to dawn so it looked less romantic and cuter. she bought it. she and i met when he finally checked into detox. Alcohol is just one outlet of his manic ways. he’s up right now and living in vegas “acting” like he’s a changed man. But he’s left two voicemails in the last week and i can tell he has been drinking again. he’s now got his new girlfriend harassing me over texts. i want him to have “supervised” visitation if any at all. right now his eldest son is in counseling at school. he’s 9. he has panic attacks over his dad. he loves his daddy but his daddy has asked him to lie and keep quiet about where they go etc. he’s tells a good lie. i’m afraid the mediator will give him unsupervised visitation when he comes to visit from vegas. we’re in illinois. what are the chances that i can prove he subjects his children to immoral situations. what do i have to do to get my ducks in a row to prove his judgement is impaired. do i need statements from past women, his ex-wife, his eldest son’s school counselor? right now it just looks like we’re all angry women. but i’m trying to protect my child from being hurt like his eldest brother is hurting. HELP.

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/what-are-the-chances-of-my-sons-father-being-made-to-have-supervised-visitation/feed/ 1 When my 21Yr son drinks hard alcohol his side go cold and hurt for days? http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/when-my-21yr-son-drinks-hard-alcohol-his-side-go-cold-and-hurt-for-days/ http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/when-my-21yr-son-drinks-hard-alcohol-his-side-go-cold-and-hurt-for-days/#comments Thu, 29 Jul 2010 03:24:08 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/when-my-21yr-son-drinks-hard-alcohol-his-side-go-cold-and-hurt-for-days/ Not sure why this happends but when my son drinks hard alcohol (not beer) his side are cold to the touch and up to 2 days after he complains his sides are sore and painful. Does anyone know why.

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/when-my-21yr-son-drinks-hard-alcohol-his-side-go-cold-and-hurt-for-days/feed/ 6 Is it illegal for my ex to not let me see my son. When i am paying for him. Neither of us have custody ? http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/is-it-illegal-for-my-ex-to-not-let-me-see-my-son-when-i-am-paying-for-him-neither-of-us-have-custody/ http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/is-it-illegal-for-my-ex-to-not-let-me-see-my-son-when-i-am-paying-for-him-neither-of-us-have-custody/#comments Wed, 28 Jul 2010 17:22:09 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmysonoffdrugs.com/is-it-illegal-for-my-ex-to-not-let-me-see-my-son-when-i-am-paying-for-him-neither-of-us-have-custody/ He lives with her family. But she wont allow me to see him. I pay each week for him. And shes taking me to court. But she wont let me see him until its all over and done with. But since its 50/50 is it illegal for her not to let me see my son. I am not abusive or alcoholic or anything.

Any help would be appreciated

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