I’m thinking of having a punch with some rum for my son’s 18th birthday party–Most of my son’s friends are 19 and older (which is the drinking age in Ontario)..so would it really be wrong to have it?
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My husband wants out of our marriage because I won’t accept his 16 year olds behavour. We have an 8 year old son together. The older boy has had years of problems with sex abuse, porn, voyerism, drugs and on and on. He has alianated his entire family and myself because of this child and risks his job with his drinking. How do alcoholics really feel inside?
with my son i was hungry all day and just snacked all day pretty much but this time it’s like food totally disgusts me and then all of a sudden im starving and once i start eating i cant stop until im so stuffed it hurts. im only eating like twice a day. im 13 weeks is this normal???
My mom is an alcoholic and drinks herself into a coma damn near…she starts at around 7am and is drunk before noon and does this all day until bedtime around 9pm…she is 5 foot tall weighs maybe 100lbs…..she can drink almost an 18 pack aday of beer…..she’s annoying and beligerant when she’s drunk….I have an 8 year old who adores his nana…and i’m expecting another son in a couple months…..i told her the new baby will not be around her as long as she is still drinking….my son visits her but im wondering if i should not let him go over anymore until she gets help….i’ve tried to take her to detox but she won’t go..she won’t go to AA or anything….she doesnt think she has a problem and on top of that she is taking Xanax now….She is Hep C positive and her enzyme levels are elevated (im sure she didnt tell her doctor about her drinking, because he prescribed the xanax)….i dont know what to do…she is married but her busband drinks also (not like her).
her husband refuses to think she has a problem ( I think he doesnt want to lose her, so he turns a blind eye)I love her but i can’t stand to be around her or talk to her on the phone…Should i show some tough love and tell her until she gets help my kids won’t be visiting her?? I’m ready to just wash my hands of her!!!
My son who is 17 has a drinking problem. I found two big bottles of vodka in his room and vodka concealed in water bottles in his refrigerator. I have found a treatment center in the area that I have made an appointment with but my son refuses to go saying he doesn’t have a problem. The treatment center said I might have to get a Court order issued. How do I go about doing that if I can’t convince my son to go.
My son is homeless, an alcoholic, street smart, no identification, owns nothing, and hasn’t contacted a family member in 2 years. I found an arrest record 1 yr ago in Texas, got no help calling them, I have filed with a missing persons website…what else can I do?
He did not join a gang…he is 47 years old, not a young man or teenager. He is a loner, have no idea even what state he is in…he gets around. I had a PI look for him too…nothing.
I don’t know what to make of this- why would she do this to her son?
My hubby comes from a family where alcoholism is rampant among several family members. At least two have died gruesome deaths (esophagus ruptured and relative bled to death- the MD said this was caused by heavy drinking that caused liver failure/tension on the esophagus….), hubby’s uncle is unable to work because his alcoholism is so bad, hubby’s aunt has cirhrosis of the liver from drinking and does not qualify for a liver transplant….
I think you get the picture as to what alcohol has done to his extended family members.
Hubby’s Mom does not drink on a regular basis- maybe a glass of wine for special occasions. Hubby’s dad drinks at least 4 beers (his drink of choice) a day (sometimes more). One time his Mom called my hubby in tears (we live 5 states away) because her husband (hubby’s dad) had gone out on a bender and was severely drunk and irrational when he came home. Hubby’s dad was unfairly accused of something at work which led to this drinking binge. Hubby and his Mom do not think hubby’s dad has a drinking problem because he is employed, doesn’t drink on the job, etc.
In other words, he doesn’t have a drinking problem/dependency like the other family members because he is functional.
When hubby and I were dating, his mom mentioned to me- more than once- that she and her husband were ‘relieved’ (her exact word) when hubby went off to college and started drinking , because they were afraid he would ‘never touch alcohol’ . He was a good kid in high school and didn’t drink. The way it was said to me made me think that his Mom thought he was somewhat ‘nerdy’ for not drinking in high school. Hubby’s Mom even made a point to tell the same thing to MY Mom at one point (my Mom was dumbfounded as to why hubby’s mom even told her this).
Throughout the first few years of our marriage, my hubby’s drinking began to escalate. He was drinking 6 or more (sometimes 8-10) beers every night at home. Even though we were financially strapped he continued to spend close to $75 a week on beer alone. He didn’t think it was a problem.
The stress of this along with other things caused severe strain on our marriage. I was about to leave him and drinking was one of the main factors. Hubby decided he ‘did not want to lose his wife and kids’ (his words) and decided to stop drinking. The week he decided to quit coincided with a visit he had planned to see his parents (I was 8 months pregnant at the time and couldn’t go).
Right before dinner he told his parents he had decided to quit drinking because he felt he had developed a problem. He didn’t mention anything about his Dad’s drinking because he still felt his Dad didn’t have a problem- he was only talking about himself and his decision to quit.
At the dinner table his Mom poured him a glass of wine and pushed in front of him and encouraged him to drink it. She said she didn’t think he had a problem with drinking and all he needed to do was just have a few drinks and then stop himself. Hubby said no, but she insisted.
I am having trouble understanding WHY a mother whose own sister and brother have debilitating drinking problems-which she herself has characterized as terrible- would encourage her son to drink when he has announced that he has a drinking problem and is quitting alcohol altogether.
Why would she do that? What do you make of what she did?
my son’s father is a pathalogical liar and uses his children as pawns in his chess game of…getting attention from women, lying, cheating, etc. he’s has a serious selfish problem. he and i were together for six years and in those six years he subjected his children to at least 2 other women and their kids. Now he’s attempting to subject my son to his “new” girlfriend who he met in AA. she’s a pediatric nurse mother of three and a Narcotics Addict. the last girl he cheated on me with thought he lived alone and had this little old dog, for a year he lied to her and continuously took his three kids (one of them, my 3 yr old son) over to her house. While in wal-mart one day, his oldest son, Jamesy asked him, “Daddy, why do you lie to lizzy about where we are going? Daddy why do you live with lizzy when you are seeing Dawn” he told jamesy, “i promise james, i’ll quit cheating on lizzy” at the same time he was buying flowers and asked jamesy to give them to dawn so it looked less romantic and cuter. she bought it. she and i met when he finally checked into detox. Alcohol is just one outlet of his manic ways. he’s up right now and living in vegas “acting” like he’s a changed man. But he’s left two voicemails in the last week and i can tell he has been drinking again. he’s now got his new girlfriend harassing me over texts. i want him to have “supervised” visitation if any at all. right now his eldest son is in counseling at school. he’s 9. he has panic attacks over his dad. he loves his daddy but his daddy has asked him to lie and keep quiet about where they go etc. he’s tells a good lie. i’m afraid the mediator will give him unsupervised visitation when he comes to visit from vegas. we’re in illinois. what are the chances that i can prove he subjects his children to immoral situations. what do i have to do to get my ducks in a row to prove his judgement is impaired. do i need statements from past women, his ex-wife, his eldest son’s school counselor? right now it just looks like we’re all angry women. but i’m trying to protect my child from being hurt like his eldest brother is hurting. HELP.
Not sure why this happends but when my son drinks hard alcohol (not beer) his side are cold to the touch and up to 2 days after he complains his sides are sore and painful. Does anyone know why.
He lives with her family. But she wont allow me to see him. I pay each week for him. And shes taking me to court. But she wont let me see him until its all over and done with. But since its 50/50 is it illegal for her not to let me see my son. I am not abusive or alcoholic or anything.
Any help would be appreciated
My son (23) is exceedingly thin for his height and body frame. He’s 6 ft tall and I think he’s got anorexic tendencies. Other family members are shocked by his appearance and he wears a beard which accentuates it more. I base my suspicion on a few things. One is the fact that even as a young child he was on the husky side, though always taller than most boys. As he grew in height he thinned out but sometimes he would say things like “I’m fat” and grab the skin around his belly between his fingers. I told him he was not fat and that everyone is made differently. I also told him if he wanted to build healthy muscle to use some light weights and add weight to them as his strength built. He wasn’t much interested in this so I didn’t push the idea. He was always active; rode bikes and loved the skateboard. He was never a big eater and while this didn’t bother me as much, what did was that I could not get him to eat fruits or vegetables unless I hid them in food or pleaded with him to eat them. Over one summer around age 16 he put on ALOT of weight by junking out and sitting in front of PC. It was noticeable to me because I had left for about 6 weeks to take care of an elderly family member in another state and when I got back he looked pretty unhealthy, not just the weight but he looked bloated and pale. I was a little shocked because he wasn’t a huge junk food eater either. In fact food never seemed to interest him all that much and much to my disappointment I could seldom get him to try new recipes. When he returned to school I think some comments were made about his weight gain and he lost over time though I didn’t see him doing any kind of perceivable diet but he did tell me he was trying to cut out the junk food. I sometimes wondered if he had intestinal problems. For eg. whether it was breakfast, lunch or dinner, he’d take 2 maybe 3 bites of a meal and kind of grab his stomach, groan and say, ‘my stomach hurts’ and that he couldn’t eat anymore. He’d also say his stomach hurt upon rising every single morning while getting ready for school. I thought maybe he had alot of social anxiety and it affected his appetite or made it too stressful for him to eat but this went on all the time and I knew he had plenty of friends. But there were alot of issues going on; he was getting in trouble in school and his behavior in general at home was very hard to handle. He moved out at 18 and his weight was around normal but looked unhealthy and I think he was doing alot of drinking and smoking MJ. Then around 19 he began looking thinner and each subsequent year he has progressively gotten thinner. He rides his bike long distances in the mountains with friends and he still complains about his stomach bothering him whenever we meet for dinner. At first I thought part of his weightloss was because he was on his own and couldn’t afford to eat better. During those years I gave him extra money for food, gas, whatever…but it has become clear that something is very wrong with with how he views himself. I don’t believe he is doing speed and have asked him straight out about that more than a couple of times. Not that I spend alot of time with him but his behavior is not that of a crack head – though his behavior in general has always been a challenge in other ways. I also don’t think he binge, purges, I just think he restricts his food and exercises too much. Lastly, I’ve always struggled with my own body image issues and have struggled with compulsive eating and weight most of my life. But when I was 18-21, I had anorexic tendencies where I would restrict my caloric intake and excessively exercise. I was very thin. Then I went the opposite way after getting pregnant with him. Though my son never saw my earlier struggles he knows how the food issues have affected my own life. I’m very afraid for my son. While I don’t think he throws up his food, he definitely restricts his intake of it. And exercises (bike rides) excessively. He’s sensitive if you say anything to him about it but because I understand what it felt like being thin and the “power” that went along with it I don’t want to say anything that gives him that same feeling; the sense of control and power an anorexic can feel when they KNOW they can control their food intake and nobody can force them to do otherwise. It isa false sense of control however. I just don’t know what to do and he’s so darn hard to communicate with. I would like to try to get him some help but can only afford to do so much. I am also checking online trying to find if there is any medical condition that might make a persons stomach hurt just after waking up or after taking just a few bites of food. I feel so bad for him. Our relationship has always been rocky. My husband any other relatives can’t seem to get him to take a hard look at himself either. I mean he seems to think he looks good and is in denial about how bad he looks and how dangerous it is to be this underweight. Any feed back based on wha
Because of the Labour Party Nazional Heil-iday I was thrown off thinking today is Monday!
So I was text messaging my 14year old son every 10 minutes excerpts from the Rush Limbaugh biography collection I have, as I do every school day to counteract any bias he gets during class, when he texts back “ok teacher says I need to turn my phone off because the Barry Sadler ringtones you put on my phone are bothering the other kids, and the President’s speech is about to start”
and the words hit me like the paddleboard to my head during my Knights of the White Dawn initiation.
“pre-si-den-t’s sp-ee-ch” – the words were ringing againg just as loud as my ears after becoming a KoWD brother.
Stop signs and lights were my foe, but ignored during this time of severe crisis as I dipped below 50mph only to corner my 1964 SS.
I burst into the classroom door to the horror of seeing Darth Bama wrapping up his speech.
I grabbed my boy out of there asap- the teacher asked if anything was wrong as my son said the words “dad I want to better in school to help the country!”
I could barely hold down my eggs as I rushed him from the room.
The teacher asked if my boy needed to see the school nurse- “I screamed “no more commie indoctrination from you and your socialized healthcare!!”
he’s back at home now in his room on a regimen of recorded McCarthy hearings archives, drinking my secret blend of buck urine, otter rut and muskox cartilage extract as a detox
but on the way home he just kept saying that he would be interested in studying history, maybe even science!
I’m down to only 2 gallons of my ‘Deer Gold’ and that’s not including the amount I’ve been chugging in panic.
HELP!!!
WHAT C AN I do nOW!!
I have two teenagers who I am scared to death of them falling in to the sex, drugs, and alcohol consuming culture. Most of all gangs and the like. I have told the kids about the dangers of all three areas, but am I doing enough? I try to lead by example, but is that still enough? Please advise.
When they argue, it is in front of my grandson. My son is alcoholic & I have suggested my dau-in-law got to Al-Anon. I go when I can. She has not gone to date. She is an only child, very spoiled & her parents are alcohlic. Outside of moving out, don’t know what to do. Should I intervene for my grandson’s sake or just stay in my room and keep to myself? I am very stressed out over this. I fear they are hurting my grandson & know my own son needs help, but refuses to get it.
Any advice is appreciated.
my ex wife let my son stay with her alcohlic mother today i was realy upset because we have both talked about this and thought we agreed that it was not safe for him at her place. this women has been an alcoholic for years and in the past four to six months gone to the crisis center at least twice and i think a thrid for sucide watch during a binge the last time this happened just a little over 30 days ago,and this time had to be escorted by police, my ex wife thinks because she has been on medicne and ok for 30 days and just a phone call away our son will be fine,(this is not the first or second time she has been ok for 30 days but many times over the past several years) my probelm with this is that not only has our son gone through some tough emotioal times recently and if he saw anything happen to his grand mother it would cause him great emotional harm but god forbid if she went off the deep end took my son in her car and got him hurt myabe worse. i dont think because u dont want to hurt someone’s feelings or what ever the case may be that she should put our son in arms way am i wrong to worry ?
What exactly is a body detox, and what are the benefits?? I ask because someone told me to try it. I am completelty sluggish and tired 24/7, I have NO energy, am always getting sick, even my skin, hair and nails feel terrible. Since my son was born, I havent been able to take care of myself,due to complications. I have ate nothing but fatty greasy foods, not exercised,not sleeping much at all, and drink coffee all day long. Well now hes better, And I need to get myself back to me. I want to start over. Eat right and exercise. I want to feel good again. Will a detox be the way to start??I just didnt have the time to take care of me, and now I have to. What exactly does a detox do?? And what benefits or results come out of it??? Like I said, I want a fresh start, I have to take care of me now. Thank You.
I’ve already convinced him that alcohol isn’t going to do him any good. He has now realized that it’s better if he undergoes treatment. Alcohol rehabilitation costs so much, and we can’t afford it. Does anybody have any suggestions about this?
I am divorced from my ex because after she gave birth to our son she turned into an abusive and alcoholic lady. And i did not want my son around that. But anyways for the past week or so my son and i have been showering together, he is two years old. I do it out of convenience really, knock two birds out of the way with one Stone. We both get our showers and i am able to make sure he dose not get hurt or anything doing it.
Hello, I am a 27 year old man who is having major issues with binge eating. My weight fluxuates between 185 to 230 a couple times a year as the problems come and go. I’ve always been a heavy eater but never gained weight until college. A few years ago I dropped down to 185 and that is when the rollercoaster began. My wife, whom I met a little under 3 yrs ago is Bulimic. She has fought the disease for over 10 yrs and is only 24 yrs old. As of now we are binging multiple times per week and cannot seem to get control of it. I find myself spending upwards of $10 per day at the snack machine. We are consuming close to 10k cal each per day we binge. There is much more to this but not enough char. to type it all. She went a whole year when we found out she was pregnant but it recently started up again. Our son is 6 months old and this is hurting us both emotionally and financially. I’m worried about my son’s future. Drs. have not been able to help. Suggestions please. Thanks
There is much more to this situation. I suffer from social anxiety. I take cymbalta for it and when I miss a couple days the urge is uncontrollable. My mind WILL NOT focus unless I binge, this does not mean 3 Lean Cusines but for example chineese take out, two cokes, four pop tarts, and a piece of bday cake ~4″x10″. All gone in less than 10 minutes. My wife is a fitness instructor and their is constant conflict regarding food. This goes much deeper but not going into it. I also suffer from depression Want to stop bad but much easier said than done. When the urges come they take over, you lose control. Control that does not come back from counting to 10, or snacking on something healthy but an annoying hyper, itchy, can’t focus on ANYTHING no matter how hard you try feeling – until you eat until you cannot eat anymore. I have to satisfy feeling this at work to do my job (IT). Then I feel like I’ve taken a step back. Also self concious over weight. 6’1″ 230lbs.
My wife and I both hide this well. We are both very attractive people, her body looks great, mine is slightly overweight. We both always concerned about our looks. We’re both very nice to everyone we meet and very well liked but it feels like we are wearing a mask. People think we are these perfect people but we hide our secrets very well. I know this sounds like I’m tooting my own horn but I’m just repeating what we’ve heard from others. I’m reaching out here because I’ve exhausted all avenues and am very desperate. As my son gets older he will begin to pick up our behavior. I’m confident if we can begin to gain control over this we will be able to start improving our relationship, financial situation and other areas of our lives that continue to degrade.
Me and my boyfriend have known each other for 7 years and have been together for 2 of them we have an 9 month old son as well. Now me and my boyfriend has had our arguments and have even fought but not like this night im about to tell u about.
Me and my boyfriend had been having problems for about 2 weeks i would stay gone n we would not sleep in the same bed when i got home.
Now on a saturday i left and later on that night at like 1 or 2 a.m. i get a phone call sayin that my boyfriend was super drunk had lost his phone and was tryin to drive so i went to go get him and told him to let me take him home he told me no and started yelling at me which turned to him pushing me hard to the ground in the parking lot and then we started fighting and i stopped and he kept coming at me dragging me by my hair banging my head to the ground stomping me punching me…everything and then he was sent to detox i did not press charges.
Now the next day i packed my shit and was ready to go but he got home early he tried to kiss me and i moved away he said whats wrong and i was like you dont know and he said that he did not remember i explained to him what had happened in detail of how he beat me and he could not believe it. I told him that me and his son was leaving and he started begging for me to stay and not to go and crying this went on for 2 hours he said that he promise never to do it again and that he made a huge mistake and that he would be better. Then he started talking about getting engaged and how much he love me and need me and for me to give him another chance i told him i already have several times he said that he knows but for me to please give him one more….
I know this is long but should i really stay?
