Can the divorced mother of a dead adult child, refuse to pay any of the funeral costs incurred by the boys dad

08/04/2011 admin 12 comments

My oldest son, Camron, died of a drug overdose almost six years ago. I found his body and at the time I was addicted to cocaine. I am a bisexual man, as a result of being raped as a child. I am 24 years into my second marriage. My ex-wife, the mother of our dead son, divorced me when Camron was 5 because I was addicted to cocaine and was having sex with men. She knew I was bisexual and chose to marry me because she was in love with me. But during and after the divoece she vowed take revenge by telling the boys that I was a fucked up queer, liar and drug addict, and she told Camron that he was just like me and that she didn’t like him but loved his brother more. And Camron was like me…he loved me… As part of her revenge, she refused to help pay any of Camrons funeral costs. Today she still hates me, my family, and my freinds, who helped by giving me $14,000.00 to bury him. I am thinking about suing her to pay back half the money to the people who gave it…

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Written by Niecee about 1 year ago.

i don’t think its possible, but call an attorney and c
Written by chickredneckmomma2005 about 1 year ago.

no she should have to pay half
Written by dawniedawn67 about 1 year ago.

No – no one is ‘required’ to pay for the funeral of an adult. That you did so says a lot about your love for your son and her lack of it, but unless she had said she would help to pay for his funeral and then reneged on the deal, you are out of luck.
Written by Deborah S about 1 year ago.

no matter what the situation is between the two of you, she has an obligation to fulfill her part in this. If he was her natural son, then she is obligated and yes, you can sue her.My condolences to you and your family and i hope you have straightened out your life(drugs). I cant imagine the loss of a child and hope i never have to.god bless
Written by richard c about 1 year ago.

drop it! the revenge and anger will eat yu up ,man!!!let the dead bury the dead ? stay away from her as she seems to effect you and cause you to do compulsive things?just keep the memories of yur son and enjoy what yu and him had while he was with yu.whats money? just a means to an end?memeories and the love is what is cherishable and lasting. peace brother!be well!
Written by seeitmiway32 about 1 year ago.

I don’t think a lawsuit will gain you anything. The legal costs will be half that, just to start!
I wonder why and how you managed to incur such high funeral costs; why not just a plain box if you could not afford more.
The money spent on funerals is wasted. It gains the deceased no different standing anywhere than in the plot of ground into which he is placed. It was your decision, not hers, to incur such an expense.
Forget her; she had good reason to divorce you.
She owes you nothing!
Written by mitty about 1 year ago.

I’m not sure that you can sue her and win, if I were you I would just cut my losses and forget about the bitch as she says she didn’t love Camron, so why should she have anything to do with his funeral? Be proud that he was YOUR son and leave the past behind.
Written by Michelle Annette about 1 year ago.

wow…….okay…….I really think you should sue. What kind of a mother is she? Regardless of who you are, it was her child that was burried. She has no right to reflect your life on the death of your son’s. It was your son’s choice to have taken drugs. On the other hand………you have to understand that she is grieving and her way of doing that is throwing the blame at you. You also have to remember that you are a role model for you sons. You said Camron was like you. What if Camron wanted to be more like you and started taking drugs just to feel closer to you because his mom was giving him emotional abuse? It is both your faults if you didn’t instruct him not to take drugs as parents it is your job. However Camron has a lot in it. He was lost in a feud between the family. He wanted someplace to fit in and a place to forget. Most likely that’s why he did drugs. You should have been more careful as parents. It is your ex-wife’s job to be a good parent now because she wasn’t one before. She should learn from her mistakes and try to help her other son. Your other son must be crazy out of thought. His parents fighting……..and his brother dead. Make sure you don’t make the same mistakes twice. Talk to him about drugs as well. Make sure he understands that what adults do is not always right. I am sorry for the loss of your son. But you should definitly have a court case about this.
Written by Michael about 1 year ago.

Mate – get on with your life and leave that negative crap behind you. Get more involved in positive ways with your your other kid(s). When they are adults, they will understand the truth. Suing is just gunna create even more bitterness and hatred. Your best revenge will be a more successful life – in your relationships, health and career. Mick.
Written by icyangeleyes1206 about 1 year ago.

You should write a book or a screenplay….your story is so sad….
Written by sticazzi about 1 year ago.

it’s sad that you have to use a sound-off board to ask these types of questions. personally, i would let it go and understand that the death of a son is enough to deal with and there is probably a lot more involved then you care to see. i think i just feel sorry for the children in this mess!
Written by Cammy about 1 year ago.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but she has no legal obligation to pay half, she did not enter into a contract to pay the funeral bill, you did. You cannot sue in a court of law for the funeral of an adult child. You willingly chose to take on the funeral debt, you were not forced, therefore there is no legal obligation. Sorry for your loss.

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