I’m a recovering meth addict, but my kids dad just can’t kick it. He’s been in and out of prison, and now he just got released and already using. He isn’t even concerned with being sent to prison becouse his P.O. told him he’ll just have to go to a Soberliving home. I’m trying to stand by him but with disappearences and when he does show up I really don’t want my son to see him. He says that he wants to stop but I don’t see that happening. He beg’s me NOT to leave him, that I’m the only good he has in his life. But yet he rather still get high. To be very sincere, I don’t want to leave becouse then I know I’ll always wonder what if? So if there’s any recoved drug addicts that do have a success story please let me know. I know that as drug addicts everyday is just one more day that we have again been able to say no, but I know that there’s days when we can’t. And that I understand, but I don’t understand him anymore. He’s just doing it because he has money, or he got mad it his mom.
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Written by frr_ls about 2 years ago.
If you are a recovering addict, you need to say goodbye to your kids father for good and if someday he gets off the drugs, good for him, but it should not affect your life any. You need to stay clean and stay away from people who use and old places you used to go. I suggest going to a narcotics anonymous meeting and good luck.
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Written by kakapobirdthing about 2 years ago.
If the price of being with this man is showing your children that hard drugs are a normal, acceptable part of life, then isn’t that too high a price to pay?
When a person is suffering from an addiction to drugs, the drugs tend to take over their personality. That means that you are really talking to the drugs, not the person. In my opinion using hard drugs is a deal-breaker in a relationship. If he has just been released from prison and is already using, then he has almost no willingness to change. Continuing to use drugs is more important to him than setting a decent example for his child. Are those the kind of priorities that make him a good partner to you?
You have a responsibility to your child to give them the best possible life. That means not giving them bad examples of how to live. If your child sees someone close to them using drugs, then your child will learn that using drugs is part of life and it’s ok.
Do you want your child to live the same life you have lived, using drugs?
If this man wants to be with you, then he will stop using. End of story. If he does not stop using, then you are not as important to him as the drugs are, and you must leave him if you want to have a decent normal human life. It is selfish and manipulative of him to beg you to stay when he won’t make it acceptable for you to stay. -
Written by luisa_mapacha about 2 years ago.
You don’t need to wonder “what if?” It’s no mystery what happens in cases like this. He’ll use around you and your child, possibly causing you to start using again, and risk having your child taken away. He’ll steal your money and pawn your possessions. He won’t bring any income (let alone love or happiness) into the household. He WILL bring more stress, scariness for your son, and legal problems.
It doesn’t sound like this man wants to quit. Not now, anyway. When he chooses to quit for himself (NOT because a judge ordered it), gets clean, establishes himself, holds a job for a while, only then should you consider letting him back in to your life.
Hearing other people’s success stories will only give you false hope. The man in your life is clearly not ready to get clean and come home.
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Written by Jessie about 2 years ago.
If he cant kick it for you and the kids. Than he is one of the many that are lost to it. that is the relationship he has chosen the best thing you can do is an intervention. but I’m not very experienced in this category
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Written by dahorton40 about 2 years ago.
do you want the state to take your kids?? if not rid yourself of the BAGGAGE, and move on,, his priorities are screwed up, and there is no amount of reasoning with an active addict
GOOD LUCK BABE, AND CONGRATS ON YOU’RE RECOVERY BE SO PROUD OF YOURSELF !!!!! WAY TO GO -
Written by Veronica C about 2 years ago.
No they can’t have a relationship I was with a guy for 4yr. and he was in & out never changed two kids move on. I did and i have better a business a real family for my baby’s and a better life my son is very happy and not asking is my daddy ever coming home , or does he love me or what did i do to my daddy mommy ……………. I love my kids very much and i want the best and I know you do too
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