First of all his ex has never had a stable home for them and has been in the homeless shelter 3 times in the past 2 years and all the places she has been were never safe and she refuses to get a job. The mom and boyfriend share a bed with him and it’s seems bad now because sometimes when I lye down he tries to hump me, and we don’t ever do anything like that in front of him and he also only 3. Now my bf has filed for custody. During mediation she said she wanted to go to rehab for herself for doing meth but refused to go to n/a meetings. the rehab is 2 hours away and his father thinks it would be best for her to get it together without bringing him along and to do it closer to home because the mediator said it’s best for a three year old to see both parents equally. When he asked her to do it near home she said no because her boyfriend got kicked out of that one and needed to be in rehab or was going to go to jail again. So when he got kicked out she rushed and used what little money she had to get a marriage license so they could move with him in a family rehab center and that the judge won’t try to tare them apart if they are married. It’s seems like to us that once more she is putting her boyfriends needs over what’s best for her son because in the past when they finally had a stable home he committed a crime and went on the run and she took her son along. Will the judge see it’s not best for the child or will he agree with her and to not split a family up?
And his father and I have a son together and have a stable home and stable income and we want to see his son have a better life that we know we can provide.
we live in California and cannot afford a lawyer. Before he filed for custody he called the sheriff to do a welfare check and talked to sharp to help him and told them about her parenting but they just told him that he could not do anything because he didn’t have custody and during mediation they said the only way he could have his son stay with him until custody was decided is if she got kicked out of her home or moved. Would calling cps be too harsh on the kid and mom because she is very unpredictable and unstable when upset and she now knows where we live and is the type to harass.
Also, before they started go to court she got denied temp custody and visitation and he got denied partial temp but yet she has him and won’t let him have for more than 2 days because he didn’t give him back once because she was raped in their apartment and he didn’t feel it was safe to bring him there and she won’t let that go.
live in butte county
Also the only reason she wants to go to this rehab is so that she can live with her boyfriend she doesn’t need to but he does or he’ll go back to jail. Do you think the judge will see her trying to do whats best for her and her boyfriend and not her son or but now their married and we are not and that the judge will favor them?