We have been together 6yrs living together for 3yrs and have a 1yr old son together we are not married. I want to break up with him and move out with my son but don’t know how to begin the conversation. I want to split up because of his alcohol intake during the weekends as he says very nasty things and am sick of it he puts his alcohol and computer games 1st and he is 40yrs old!! im 26
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Ok. so. here’s the problem.
My son Michael has a girlfriend named Molly, who I really like.
They’ve been dating for three years now and he was talking to his sister Pheobe about how much he loves Molly and might marry her.
Yesterday I night, I came into my son’s room to bring him his laundry and he was making out with another girl on his futon! Idon’t know what to do. I’ve known Molly for years and don’t want to see her hurt, but I also don’t want to let my son cheat on her. Also, I think Pheobe knew he was kissing other girls- maybe doing more- and I’m worried about the example he’s setting.
He says they were drinking but I know what alcohol smells and I didn’t find any bottles. They were not drinking
Please help, I don’t know what to do
Our family has been planning a trip to Bahamas (not booked yet) for my son’s high school graduation. Last night he comes to me very excited because some of the guys have asked him to go along to a local beach for “Senior Week”. He told me that no one asked him to go along anywhere, just these guys. I know the parents of these kids and they are pretty good kids but I know that they drink alcohol on occasion. (There are 4 boys asking him to go). He doesn’t hang out with these kids other than talk to them in school.
His one friend that he does hang out with hasn’t been invited anywhere either. Now comes the kicker, another friend, whom my son considers his best friend, is headed to FL with 3 girls and another boy and staying at his grandmother’s house with these kids. The FL gang didn’t invite my son either. I got offended by this because we are (I thought) good friends with this boy’s parents. We go to dinner, watch football, hang at each others’ houses on occasion, stuff like that. There have been other times that this same boy left my son out of things and I know they don’t have to do everything together but it seemed like this end of the year trip is a big deal. I would think going with your best friends would be the thing to do.
So what gives? I don’t want my son going to the local beach for “Senior Week” because I know how it gets and that’s not what I want for him.
Do I ask the FL boys’ mom why my son wasn’t invited? Do I send him to the local beach anyway? Do I make his life miserable and make him go with us? We probably won’t go if he doesn’t go along. We told him to bring a friend and he could have his own room, and he didn’t have to stick to us all the time.
My mom is wasted. She is upsetting me and I really am not sure what to do.. When she was with my dad, she was uptight, very christian like, and a perfectionist.. when I was 18, the same month I graduated High School they split up… they both moved away…. she took my sister with her, right before I had my son, she returned… Atfirst I knew she changed, and I thought it was VERY good at first I thought it was for the better.. She was a bit more relaxed, still acted like a Sincere Christian although I noticed she actualy drank alcohol.. which was fine.. NOW… I get home from work and she is WASTED, tonight she is BEYOND wasted.. talking in weird voices and just sprawled out on the couch.. my son (5 years old) thinks its funny, but she is making comments to him which I think are Unappropriate, although he doesn’t seem to understand them.. He doesn’t have school tommorow, and instead of bringing him to his DAD Mom and Dad (they always watch him when he is off) I thought she might enjoy a day with him… NOW she is telling him ” Why do I have to watch you tommorow” ” I don’t know if I want you to stay home tommorow with me” She is playing guilt trips on him and acting like she is crying saying.. ” You don’t like me” making him start to cry and beg her for approval.. HELLO.. an I the ONLY PERSON that thinks this is wrong??? I told him to leave her alone.. and I told her to stop.. NOW.. she Upset my son.. he doesn’t understand whats going on.. She is yelling at me calling me stupid cause I told him to leave her alone, I finally got her in her room and I locked her door.. I don’t need this stress.. now he is in his room in a time out for calling me stupid.. and I feel bad for punishing him…?? ** Adding on.. I am not a uptight Christian type, I am relaxed, I enjoy my alcohol.. but getting wasted I feel if anything is for the bar scene or hanging with your friends.. Not Alone.. on a weekly basis..
My son is 19 years old and his fiancee and him attend UF And live around 4-5 hours away. Well anyways his fiancee is pregnant with there first child she claims she missed a pill and that is how she got pregnant. And well anyways my son made it clear before that, that he was not ready to become a father until they were out of school. Well he somewhat flipped out on his fiancee and that is why his fiancee and him came to my house when she broke the news to him. Well anyways his fiancee are close i consider her a daughter i never had. Well anyways we were talking the other night and she told me she has noticed that my son has been drinking a massively amount. He was in the ER the day before her and i talked for alcohol poisoning. And he is still talking she say’s she trys to talk to my son and comfort him and everything but he is just pushing her away. I am thinking about driving down there and sitting down with my son and having a talk with him because if he keeps up at this pace he will hurt himself or even die and i do not want to lose my son. And i also want him to understand that he can not be like this around his baby or his fiancee and that he could lose them both. Advice?
I was running late from work last night because there was alot of traffic so I asked my older sonn to pick up his younger brother from his friends house.he told me ok and he would go get him in five minutes. When I got home my younger son’s friend’s mom was pulling out of my driveway. I askedd my son why and he said she dropped him off. I was very concerned because my older son was suppost to pick him up 45 minutes prior. I was thinking that he wasn’t even home and he didn’t want me to know so he told his brother he couldn’t drive him. I asked my younger son if he knew where his brother went and he told me he was at home so i went to ask him why he didn’t pick his brother up. when I went into his room i smelled alcohol and he told me he was too drunk to drive his brother home. My qustion is should i ground him for drinking even though he did the right thing and didn’t drive his brother?
They are 14 and 17
It’s two girls … and I just feel the older (woman) would get the younger (teenager) into stuff that they don’t need to be into.
BQ: Would you let your son/daughter hang out with someone that’s of legal age and can purchase alcohol/cigarettes for them?
My son is 20 months old, he has had eczema since he was 2 months old from food allergies (ALL dairy, egg, and peanuts). His allergist is crazed about keeping his skin moisturized. We have tried what feels like everything, it either burns his skin or makes him flare up. The only thing he will let me put on him is Aquaphor. We have tried: Vanicream, Eucerin, Various J&J creams, Gold Bond, Sarna, Cetaphil and a few others. I need some help in trying to find something else, i’m open to anything Natural, or not, as long as it doesnt have Alcohol, scents or dyes in it. I know this is hard, which is why i need some more suggestions!
Please understand his allergies are so severe that contact with these foods causes a break out, Items like Shea butter are not options, I have contacted his Allergist, they arent helping!
My bf and I go to a grocery store to buy foods. He gets some booze for himself. I’m not 21 (I’m 20). When we get to the checkout, the checker asks him for his ID. But then asks me for my ID. Apparently both people have to be 21 to get the alcohol, even if I’m not the one going to buy it or anything of the like. I didnt have my ID on me anyways.
They said it was policy. How would this work with a parent there with their teenage son or daughter? It’s only happened at this one particular grocery store, we can still go to ANY other store and both not be carded.
What do you think of this?
This is in wisconsin, they have an all card policy. But I’m not sure how that works, pretty much its been them carding 60 year olds and what not. But I’m not the one buying the alcohol. Pretty much it seems to be if I’m just standing there..
We thought it was just the cashier being like an overprotective mother to another person kind of thing, but so far it has happened twice. Now when he wants booze I just stay in the car heh.
I realize it is their job, and I’m not holding a grudge for it. I did think it was interesting and just wanted to know what other people thought and how it would work in other situations 
For the past 18 years my son has been a problem. at 3yr he abused playmates and was kicked out of day care.elementary school he had conduct problems everyday including pornography issues. Middle school it only got worse in one incident my son manipulated 30 boys in beating another boy senseless. He acts if no one but himself matters and is very sadistic he also acts calm as if nothing is wrong with any situation that I find hostile I have also found him mutilating animals*cats*. Thats where I drew the straw I need advice on what I should do he denies anything is wrong with him. He steals from neighbors. 2 years ago he caught our nearby forest on fire. He drinks our alcohol and denies it. He manipulates any situation. He is very impulsive and very arrogant .He has sent 1 of our sons to the hospital 2 times. He is now 18 has been in jail once and from what I’ve been told beats his girlfriends. He denies it all even if we all know he is lying. I had also noticed he wet the bed beyond what i consider an appropriate age. I have found him to be very hedonistic and narcissistic. Also he feels entitlement for everything cars etc. Now at 18 yr old he has no real long term goals besides from his own words *I will rule the world* I am afraid for my son I need advice on what could be wrong with him and all these years I am ashamed of myself for never taking him to a psychiatrist. I know now at the age of 18 there is nothing I can do but I would like to know what could be the problem of all this?
My son has recently gotten out of jail he is now being forced into therapy maybe they can change this madness that’s been happening for 18 years. I’m almost positive he suffers from ASPD the conduct disorders were all leading up to this I hope this therapy can help him. All in all he is still my son and I love him very much.
I have a seven year old son (stepson) who I love very much and have always looked at him as my own. To me, he’s my son and will always be. My husband and I have a four year old daugter together and honestly if you asked me to choose one I never could. I’ve been in his life since the baby days and my husband and I have full custody. He’s my little man and he grew up calling me “mommy”. We have been open about the fact that I am not his biological mom since early on and he seems to understand. He hardly asks about his biological mother, but he is aware that she is not in a good situation. The biological mom never wanted him. My husband and her were never married, just dating. She made it clear that she had no interest in being involved with the baby. She’s really gotten herself in a huge mess, drugs and alcohol and so many children that she has no rights to! Occasionally we hear from her (usually about her troubles), I’ve tried to get her to care for her children and offer a little love… Never worked. I do not understand how she cannot love her own son, he is an amzing, loving child who’s the sweetest.
Now, the biological mom is sick. Very ill and is on her last days. She has never seen my son (her son), when he was born she refuses to hold him. Part of me wants my son to go see her because it’s important to see and accept your lines of family. I want him to at least know who his biological mother is. I’ve never talked bad about her, I’ve always been honest. We have tried to encourage him to see her here and there. He’s only seven and I don’t want him to ever think in the future I took away his mother’s spot and never gave him the opportunity to know her. I don’t know if it’s a good idea to let him see her or not. Will it scare him? Confuse him? She’s not the best person and I’m scared she’ll hurt him or say something to crush a seven year old. My husband isn’t too comfortable with the idea. I just think this will be her only chance, she should have some decency.
My son accidentally left a blue ballpoint pen in a pants pocket and it came out in the dryer and got ink all over one of my favourite sweaters. I think it’s either 100% cotton, or a cotton/poly blend. (I took the tag out cuz it was scratchy). Is my sweater salvageable, and how? Please only offer advice that you know is tried and true, not something that you just hear about. I don’t want to make it worse. I thought about rubbing alcohol, which took it off the metal, and most of the plastic, in the dryer. I’m worried that rubbing alcohol on material will just make the ink spread on the sweater. This sweater has been dried, with the pen, in the dryer. HELP!!
A little background info…
When our son was 3 months old, we split up. My son ended up living with me for 3 months. I then got a job opportunity in a town 3 hours away. My son stayed with his father for about a month until I got on my feet and had a place ready for him. We agreed verbally to share custody half and half while I was living in that town. Well, a week later I received court papers and he was filing for sole custody. I had no resources to hire a lawyer, so I went to court without backup. My ex was granted sole custody and we share legal custody. I moved back home after that and he only allowed me two visiting days a week. I have no record with the law, drug addictions, or alcohol addictions. There is no legitimate reason for this. It’s been a year and a half now and I took him to mediation trying to get him to allow me more time with my son. He’s not budging. I don’t know what to do, what to say in court, anything. I have little money for a lawyer and have never been through this before so I don’t know the process……HELP. PLEASE. My son needs me and his father doesn’t see how much this is affecting our son.
Thank you much Thomas, that was what I was looking for
My husband and I are young,I’ll admit. We’re both 21 and we got married at 18,right out of high school. I won’t say our relationship hasn’t had it’s ups and downs but there’s been more good than bad. We have a one year old son. We both love him very much but his birth wasn’t expected for a couple more years since my husband and I wanted to finish college before we had children. Now I can’t imagine a day without him. I still work and go to school, I never stopped except for the minimum time before and after the birth of my son as money for us was tight. My husband does the same. But since he’s 21 now he’s discovered the world of partying(clubbing) and the world of alcohol. Since turning 21 in November 2010 there hasn’t been a single weekend when he hasn’t had a hangover. It’s really getting on my nerves because he never spends time with our son or me anymore. He’s gone all day and when he gets home at night during the week,he’s tired and he just goes in our room and stays there until the next morning when he leaves for work. On weekends,he takes clothes to work/school and leaves them in his car so he can just change and go out with his friends while I stay home spending time with and taking care of our son. He even missed his sons first birthday party because he had a hangover and couldn’t get out of bed.
Have I tried talking to him? Yeah. Numerous times. Literally too many to count. Did it help? No. He still does it.
It’s driving me crazy but not because he’s not spending time with me,it’s our son I feel bad for most. He’s missing out on having a father because his dad is drinking away on his free time. I understand being tired but I put being a parent over being tired or other things I want to do,shouldn’t my husband do the same? I just can’t seem to get through to him. What do I do?
I have a seven year old son (stepson) who I love very much and have always looked at him as my own. To me, he’s my son and will always be. My husband and I have a four year old daugter together and honestly if you asked me to choose one I never could. I’ve been in his life since the baby days and my husband and I have full custody. He’s my little man and he grew up calling me “mommy”. We have been open about the fact that I am not his biological mom since early on and he seems to understand. He hardly asks about his biological mother, but he is aware that she is not in a good situation. The biological mom never wanted him. My husband and her were never married, just dating. She made it clear that she had no interest in being involved with the baby. She’s really gotten herself in a huge mess, drugs and alcohol and so many children that she has no rights to! Occasionally we hear from her (usually about her troubles), I’ve tried to get her to care for her children and offer a little love… Never worked. I do not understand how she cannot love her own son, he is an amzing, loving child who’s the sweetest.
Now, the biological mom is sick. Very ill and is on her last days. She has never seen my son (her son), when he was born she refuses to hold him. Part of me wants my son to go see her because it’s important to see and accept your lines of family. I want him to at least know who his biological mother is. I’ve never talked bad about her, I’ve always been honest. We have tried to encourage him to see her here and there. The biological mom claims she wants to see him as well, but I don’t know think my son does at all. He’s only seven and I don’t want him to ever think in the future I took away his mother’s spot and never gave him the opportunity to know her. I don’t know if it’s a good idea to let him see her or not. Will it scare him? Confuse him? Will it give him second thoughts about me as his mother figure? I could really use some feedbacks, thanks.
Now, I know for a fact that I can be over protective of my 10 month old son.. But this is where I put my foot down..
My brother in law has just turned 18 and has gotten into smoking, doing drugs, and drinking whenever he gets the chance. Now, this boy loves his 10 month old nephew, with all his heart, and will never pass up a chance to see him, but he also wants to babysit.. My partner thinks this would be okay, but I put my foot down and said that he is not allowed to until he is clean from the drugs, and he has to be sober that day.. My entire in-law family thinks I am nuts as they don’t know that thier son is into drugs and smoking, and all they know is that I refuse to allow their son to babysit my little boy..
My father is also a constant drunk, and he has been told no babysitting unless there is a complete promise of no alcohol..
My brother has a history of drugs and is prohibited from babysitting..
Now, honestly mummies.. Do you think I am crazy? Or should I allow these drunks and druggos to babysit my son, when they could potentially harm him? Keep in mind he is also crawling and climbing, and EVERYTHING goes into his mouth.. I am afraid of them leaving a bottle of beer or dropping some drugs, and him consuming them..
Please, be honest.. =/
He is a weed user, that will do it anywhere and everywhere.. He also drinks everywhere.. He rang me up drunk about 3 hours ago, just to tell me he was awesome.. Now, does that sound like a uncle that should be allowed to babysit?
He has been to our house and made our son cry when drunk before.
My 16 Year old was attacked at a party by 2 older people unknown (At the Time) AGES RANGE 18-20. NOW MY SON IS BEING CHARGED FOR CLASS C FELONY ASSAULT 2ND DEGREE…One of the guys got in a pretty big fight after (And got injured I guess). but I took my son to the Hospital he had several bruises and scrapes as well as a head injury.Now that this guy is claiming this…Does this mean he’s admitting to attacking my child? Can I file charges on him as well? To my understanding he and some of his older friends were at this home with 13-16 year old kids supplying alcohol and drugs to these kids and picking at all the younger boys…I have hired an attorney we meet on Dec. 3rd…My point is…Can I file charges on him and others now that I know for sure who they are? And he claims to have witnesses (14-15 Years in age Girls) That he’s obviously still giving illegal things to…! (bargaining)..My son has a witness as well…Which is honest never in trouble and she is a straight A Honor Student…This other guys witnesses are already in the juvenile system…What are our chances? And what charges should we file if any now that this guy is slightly leaking he hit my son?
I think I hate my step son!! He is 8, rude, disrespectful, does not use his manners and constantly needs prompting. I have my own son and he is 7.
Everything my son has he wants. He cries if he doesn’t get his own way or doesn’t have the things he wants. obviously my son gets more than him because he lives with us whereas he doesn’t. I can’t afford to keep buying this child things we have to pay his mum a lot of money to keep him and when we do have him every other weekend we still have to feed and cloth him as well as buying him things. I think its up to his mother to buy him toys and games. it would be different if he actually lived with us because it would be our responsibility to buy for him and we wouldn’t be paying his mother. She doesn’t work, so gets everything paid for her by the government and gets all this money to do what ever she wants with. She seems to be spending a lot of it on smoking and weed as well as alcohol.
I just feels so fed up, when we’re not working we got the kids and my boyfriend just seem to want this child of his whenever he can and has forgotten about us!! if we didn’t have the child it would be easy to ship my son off to my mums but i feel guilty to ask of her to have 2 kids.
We do visit my mothers every now and again as wells as other family members and this child is o rude. he does not greet them and has to be promted. when you ask him to use his manners its like getting blood out of a stone!
I don’t want my son copying this behaviour as he has been brought up with manners. My boyfriend and i always seem to argue everythime his son comes. i think the problem is his son because any other time we’re fine.
Please help!!
I am not sure where to begin. My 16 year old son, has been in and out of trouble for drug use.
I will preface this with I have my hands FULL besides his issues of what seems to be a constant habit of messing up. I have a child who is three with a chronic condition which requires hospital stays several times a year, a baby, and two other children.
Long story short, I had to show a case of tough love and call the cops on him for bringing marijuana in the house thus endangering other family members. I almost, I repeat almost wish I turned a blind eye on it because I feel like not only is he on probation, but I am being treated like some kind of criminal by his probation officer.
I have complied with everything they asked, when I have issues or have reason to suspect anything of my son I call the po, and do the best I can to try to get him on the right path. However, when my son messes up (example, he was on house arrest all summer and unknown to me, after all I do have to sleep sometimes, he snuck out a couple of times during this summer) and his po yelled and me and asked if I encouraged it after it getting back to him that he did this!
Umm, no, I just want him to get through the program and I would never do anything like that but I can’t have control over him 24/7. I feel this man is out to get me and drag me under the bus. My son while on probation is in this program as well, called drug court, and we meet with a judge and panel including his po every two weeks. Well, last drug court meeting, his po surprised me with a rumor he had heard which was, in small words embellished. See, before all of this happenend, my son’s friends brought over this stuff they call legal bud. It’s supposed to be like a legal alternative to getting high and being over 18, I took a small puff of it out of curiousity (look, I don’t even drink alcohol let alone do anything illegal) and then felt REALLY stupid for it and proceeded to tell said friends to remove this stuff from my home, that while legal, it is not good to do. So, here it is, many, months after the fact and his po says he heard from some kids that I did “substances’ with my son, and I explained to him what happened, and he STILL told this to the judge! I explained my case to the judge and he seemed okay with it, but I was furious that this po seemed to throw me under the bus and for what? I said to the po I would willingly submit drug tests to prove my innocence and said you can search my home and find nothing and he was like ‘ I will do just that’. Like I said, I have nothing to hide, but I also feel very violated at the idea of having to pee in a cup in front of someone when I did nothing illegal and does he have the power to do this to me?
Other problems I have with him is that he will give me maybe an hour’s advance notice for a meeting, and say I have other issues like once he did this and I was about to take my sick child mentioned earlier to her neurologist (you have to book these appointments there 6 months in advance and she had just got out of the hospital so I HAD to get her there) and he gave me some sort of attitude about it.
Another part of this program that is required of my son is that he is to attend the YMCA twice a week. The court gives the whole family access to it, but me and the other kids don’t get to utilize it too much because we have so many other things going on in a day and besides, we are not the ones on probation. One time, the po raised his voice to me in MY dining room about the rest of the family not going enough. Like I said, it’s MY SON on probation, not the rest of us! And on the same visit, he asked my 15 year old daughter who has NEVER been in trouble in her life, who is very timid and a straight A student in a rather mean tone, ‘SO, are you doing legal bud too’?
I guess the bottom line is this; Should he be allowed to nag the rest of us like this? I am at my wits end with stress dealing with my son who doesn’t seem to want to follow rules, have him in counseling, drug treatment, and feel like I have to devote so much to him and not be able to divide my time properly with my other children.
Other things to note; My I remarried, and my husband works a lot, and tries to help when he can, but as far as his father goes, he lives in a different state and sees him once maybe twice a year and says he washed his hands of the situation and won’t even take him to live with him.
The only reason I “ratted’ him out was because his former po said that if I did not, and I knew he had it in the house, I could lose my other kids. If I knew the reprocutions it would bring to my whole family, including him, I would NEVER have done it.
Legal weed is something I tried ONE TIME only. That was the only sort of substance I think I have done in many years(since my own teen years) , including alcohol.
Sadly, he also didn’t just “smoke a little weed”. He got into prescription drugs and alcohol as well.
Pigdaddy: So I should have just “ignored’ and had them find out I let him have it in the house and then have DFS take my other kids away?
Before this, I was not as ‘experienced” in dealing with people in government and thought you did what they said or else.
I guess this is what I get for posting this on the internet.
her, completely OBLIVIOUS to her pain.
She IS MOST DEFINITELY A TROUBLED WOMAN, with her drugs and alcohol problems. And now this ! Imagine how she feels, and what this may do to her. Her son’s death also sounds VERY SUSPICIOUS, like DRUG USE !
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