I know that I have a chemical balance which makes drinking alcohol inadvisable for me. I consider myself a recovered alcoholic. The worst times of my life were when I drank and my father was exactly the same. At what age should I explain to my son that he’s likely to have the same problem?
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Written by ampotratz about 2 years ago.
I would say around 12 or 13 years old. Ideally, you want to tell him before he may have opportunities to experiment with friends, which is often around the early teen years. Also, you should explain your experiences with it to him. It will be something real he can grasp onto.
Side note: it is very admirable and responsible of you to talk with your son about this! You will be doing him a huge favor by doing it.
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Written by zen_flesh about 2 years ago.
maybe you should read a few more articles with opposing views as yours on this “chemical balance”. you may find that research and result has moved away from the hereditary notion of “alcoholism”.
all that aside,”alcoholism” is not pretty to watch and you should do what works for you and not what we write to you here.
my thoughts on passing on the info is that it is telling your son much more than he may ever need or want to know.perhaps talking about health and healthy choices will allow your son to decide what is….healthy. -
Written by dreeamer86 about 2 years ago.
when you think he’s old enough to understand what your talking about i’d say around 12 13 but don’t use big words like genetic predisposition coz im 20 and don’t even understand words like that lol
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Written by Mary-Elizabeth about 2 years ago.
I’m not in the position to give you advice about this, since I’ve never had to deal with the problem. I’d say it would be appropriate to talk to him about this around the age kids are first introduced to alcohol – 12 or 13.
As for your comment about Michael Moore – no, he probably doesn’t want me dead, but he definitely hates me. I always find it hard to believe that anyone actually follows what Moore says, but I have to remind myself that most of his work is directed towards young adults who know nothing about what they talk about. Michael Moore is despicable, hateful and a racist bastard.
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Written by Yarro Pilz about 2 years ago.
Look for “teachable moments.”
If you’re watching a movie together, and someone is intoxicated, that’s a great “in” for talking about the effects of alcohol and how your son, especially, might want to stay away from it.
When there are stories on the news or in the paper about folks arrested for underage drinking, altercations involving alcohol or drugs, car crashes related to drinking…anything that illustrates the consequences of doing it, use those opportunities to talk to your son.
You don’t have to make a big deal out of it. You can say it in an off-handed way. You want to say it often enough that it makes an impression, but not so much that you’re nagging.
Then, when your son is older, in his teens, you can talk about how you never, ever want him to ride in a car with someone who’s intoxicated, and you never, ever want him to drive drunk himself. Make a deal how you’ll always come and pick him up.
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Written by Melissa N about 2 years ago.
Adolesence, no sooner. Maybe even later. It might be hard for him to understand something like this at a young age.
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Written by Mic about 2 years ago.
Don’t wait until 12 or 13. It is better at elementary school age when you start talking to him about drinking or smoking. When ever he asks, is curious, or has seen the effects of ones drinking can be a good time to start the conversation. Then just talk to him matter-of-factly. Answer any questions he has, and then keep talking about drinking and the negative effects it can have.
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Written by yogi about 2 years ago.
I think that you should ask your son if he knows what being an alcoholic really means. If he fully understands the problem and that it can happen to anyone, then he should understand the situation you and he are faced with. Ten years old old sounds like it would be about the right age when children start understanding the world a little better. But every child is different. You should go ahead and start asking questions and explain it in a way that doesn’t scare him.
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Written by M N about 2 years ago.
the sooner the better. Peer pressure is tough and alcohol is easy to get. He needs to know the consequences, don’t just tell him. You need to show him consequences. My uncle was an alcoholic and ended up in jail for habitual traffic offenses. To shock my younger sister, my dad took her to visit our uncle in jail. Thing is, peer pressure still won out and she drinks and parties all the time. Be consistent, have open communication all the time and pray they become strong enough people to abstain or use in moderation.
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