I am asking more rhetorically, as a vent…

Was in an exclusive relationship with a man for 9 months.. even talked about him moving in with me and my kids…our future, getting married.. then one day he was supposed to come for dinner and tells me he was on his way… but instead two hours later I get this cryptic text (mind you this man is 40! not a kid) and he tells me, I have some work stresses happening and will not be coming… I try to call and he does not answer… so I text him back saying, can he give me at least a fast call about it?? But no response… instead, he just blew me off…I got a gut feel – a bad one… so I drove down to his place – texting him, well I will come to you and serve dinner there.. but no reply…

fI go to his place (he gave me key) and he was not home.. so I text him saying, are you sti,ll at work, I will drop off dinner for you (mind you this is a relationship I was not just some hook up or dating buddy)… no response… so I text him saying whats happening you are not at work or home… are you ok, upset, what is happening now I am worried.. and NOTHING…

So I go back to his place and wait.. I finally went home at like 2am – no sign of him… this was on Wednesday.. since then I have heard nothing from him.. but I KNOW he got my texts, etc.. because he has been on his video game (world of warcraft).. my 8 yr old plays it and saw him on there… at first my kid says hello to him and he blocks “ignores” my kid.. wtf? This is NOT the man I met 9 months ago and fell in love with…

Anyhow, that is about all, I did send him and angry text or email or two – because its not the idea if he wanted to break up, yes that would of course hurt.. but its the way he just goes from saying I love you… I have so much respect for you — to a total 360 turnaround… it would hurt less if he just said, I met someone or its not going to work, etc… so of course I felt no choice – then I texted him saying I am done 100% I can not deal with this.. next day my kid is on wow again.. and he tells my son he’ll always be his friend.. and he will always be mommy’s friend..

WTF this is screwed up… and on top of all this.. he was acting funny about 3 weeks ago, so I said, do you want to see others, we can just go back to dating and he flipped saying I am not going to date someone I am in love with… so why is this happening now.. it makes no sense at all.. like he is a completely different person or on drugs or something.. I can not make sense of it, it hurts and makes me angry at the same time.. we were best friends.. did not have any big issues happening our sex life was good and we genuinely liked one another – or so I thought… we were going to a premarital counseling this (his ide) before he moved in, etc.. but he was never good at dealing with conflict… it just makes no sense to me and I am confused.. of course all my girlfriends say hes a jerk and just move forward – and I am trying… but I liken it to the death of someone… just *poof* gone — so I guess I am just venting wondering if this is typical male behavior nowadays… I am divorced and not really big into the dating scene.. my friends say he is a commitment phobe – but he has had stable job for 8 years and he was married once before.. so I do not know much about if that would be it.. but things were going good and all of a sudden nothing.. makes no sense and is driving me nuts.
First I need to add in response to joe flee below.. I never rushed him into anything.. the whole idea of moving in with me came from HIM.. he moved from a rented condo to a rented townhouse I have a 5bdrm home I own.. he said had I asked him to move in, he would have.. that was a month ago… its the inconsistency in what he recently said he wanted compared to a complete blow off… . And yes, perhaps going down to see him and follow my gut was wrong, when I think about that YES I could still be with him living in ignorance is bliss mode… but where would that get me? The bottom line is he was caught in a lie and can not deal with it… he ran and hid (by not responding) because he does not know how to seal with confrontation… however, it ruined any ounce of trust I had in him… not every time we are hurt is it our own doing…