One of my friends (a middle aged woman who lost her legs in an accident over 20 years ago) is an alcoholic. She knows it, we know it, frankly, the whole town knows it. It’s starting to interfere with her work and it’s having a horrific influence on her 20 year old son who is my best friend.

We are trying to get her to go for help, such as an AA meeting, but she keeps saying she “needs to do it” her way. Which means detox or some other medical method. She doesn’t have time for that, and refuses to even try going to one AA meeting. Myself, two of my friends and my boyfriend said even though we don’t drink (me and my boyfriend not at all) we will go with her to be there for her.

Does anyone have any ideas on how to convince her to try going??Or even have other ideas that has a less social environment but still a strong support system?? Sorry this is a book, but please, I would really appreciate other input. Both my parents were alcoholics, father died due to it.
It hurts me to watch her do this to herself and her son. And I want to help her but she needs to stop making excuses and want to help herself. I know that much is the hard part….
We tried a semi-intervention last night. We sat down and talked to her last night and told her EVERYTHING about her son, about how we feel and about how she is effecting everyone. I guess we can only hope that she was really listening.