16 year old son’s girlfriend is pregnant and they want to keep it?

11/12/2010 admin 9 comments

My son started school the 24th and he has started to become very irritated and agitated and just plain moody. He has been getting maybe 30mins of sleep a night if that. Nothing works to help him sleep melatonin lunesta nothing seems to help it. And when he comes home he goes straight to his room and more or less locks himself in there away from the entire family. I am not sure what to do my son and I have a very very close bond and he has always told me everything. But now he has shut himself down to me and everything. I am at a lose with him.He has not had that much homework so far it is just some Syllabuses that i have had to sign and some worksheets. And he is a junior in high school. He is on the track and swim team. And he does have a girlfriend has had the same one since he was 12. I am not sure if my son is sexually active or not to tell you the truth. But for some reason it would not surprise me. And i highly doubt drugs are involved because my son went to Alaska over the summer for vacation. And he chose to come back early because his cousins were doing pot and meth. Well anyways he got home yesterday and went to his room and i went in to talk to him and he just started to sob and i asked him what was wrong and he just blurted out that his girlfriend is pregnant. And that she wants to keep it and he feels so overwhelmed and stressed and he is not sure what to do. What can i do to help? How do i help in something like this? I am glad she is keeping it to be honest because not mater how i feel that baby is my grandchild and i would never feel right them giving him or her to someone else.

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Written by Cracker Jack about 1 year ago.

Just give him time to his self right now. He’s probably feeling the pressure and needs time to relax alone at this point. Just be there and don’t change at all.
Written by Jordan M about 1 year ago.

Time for both families to get together to have a major discussion. Call her parents and arrange the discussion. As both your son and his girlfriend are children, the parents on both sides must be involved.
Written by Remember to Breathe about 1 year ago.

Just explain to your son that you are there for him and if she chooses to have the child you will be 100% supportive.
Written by Seth about 1 year ago.

i guess shes lucky first make SURE shes pregnet if she is then call the docter when shes ready and then tell the docter what happened and he’ll under stand
Written by TRIXIE top contributor of BS. about 1 year ago.

your reality was my biggest fear.. (thank God, i’m in the clear).

what can you do? what’s done is done. now the question is what is the plan for the future.

if i were in your shoes, my plan was, my sons finish school. period. that included college and med school.

i would have paid his child support order from the court, and i would have helped coordinate visitations.

but by God, if they did not finish the plan that i/we laid out for them the wrath of Trixie would have cleared a path similar to that of an F5 tornado.

but this was a foundation that i laid down beginning when they were very young. the level of trust and open communication is something that was first and foremost with us. the opportunities that i had made sure they had access to helped cement the desire for a much higher education. thus, them keeping blinders on and trudging forward.

we have had our own fair share of H*ll brought on by the choices my 2 *jokers/clowns* have made.. and we lived through it..

you will live through to and so will he.
Written by beckyjadee xo about 1 year ago.

all you have to do is let him know that you are going to be there for them no matter what he decides to do 100%! but whatever you do, do not keep harassing them about what they are going to do. they will take as much time as they need to make the decision 100%. this could make them uncomfortable and make a decision that they don’t actually want to make and make them feel pushed into things. im sure your son and his girlfriend will make the right decision..
hope this helped (:
x
Written by Betty M about 1 year ago.

Most girls who get pregnant at 16 and decide to keep the baby, think they are going to have this sweet little baby to love and who will love them back. They don’t have a clue about what a big responsibility it is to take care of and raise a baby. They have no idea how the birth of this child is going to drastically change their life forever. Both this girl and your son are still in high school and now days, college is a must. How will they raise and support a baby at their age? Once that child is born, their own childhood will end and their lives will be changed forever.

It’s time for you and your son to have a meeting with this girl and her parents. Both the girl and your son need to realize exactly how this baby will change their lives. Both parents need to talk about what roles they plan to play in helping these child if they decide to go ahead and have the child. Point out how they will both have to finish high school, go to college and have jobs to support their child. Explain how much it cost to support a child and how their lives will change.

I know it may seem a little late to have this talk with your son, but if he had one child by accident, it could happen again. Tell him the importance of never depending on a girl to use birth control and even if she says she’s on the pill, he must always use a condom. It will protect him from having another unwanted child, but also protect him from getting an STD.

I know how terrible it must be for your son to become a father at such a young age and for you to have to deal with this problem too. It could have turned out much worse. Your son could have ended up with Aids, because he had unprotected sex.

I wish you and your son the best. I hope everything works out for your family.
Written by CoeyG about 1 year ago.

First you say that you don’t know if your son is sexually active, has had the same girlfriend since he was 12 (which was far too young to have a girlfriend in the first place), then you say she is pregnant…that’s a pretty good sign that, yeah, he IS sexually active. Obviously you didn’t teach him how to “cover” himself. Let alone about abstinence. Now you’re going to have to talk to him about getting a job because that pregnancy isn’t going to support itself financially, and although the girlfriend may be covered under her parent’s health insurance when she gives birth the baby won’t be. So I guess these two immature, irresponsible children are going to mooch off of their parents and/or the taxpayers. Wonderful as if the economy wasn’t already in the toilet.
Written by halls valley about 1 year ago.

both sets of parents and the kids need to sit down and talk and reassure the teens that you will help them any way possible (they still need to be responsible)and assure them(him) it will be ok

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