How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

Should i emigrate with boyfriend who cheated when F****d on drugs who is suicidally sorry?

So, its a long story and alot has happened but this is the shortened version, so sorry its very extreme and to the point – i need some real advice and guidance…. All thoughts greatly welcomed.

Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years, (seeing each other for a year before that) and have been living together for a year. He works offshore so our relationship has always kept its excitement, ie, trying new things, still doing different activities etc. The last couple of months into the relationship we had sunken into a comfortable routine then he was hardly ever there. Prior to us moving in he had an extreme drug problem – ie waking up and snorting cocaine but he really turned himself around so we could be together. Things have gone from bad to worse, we hardly saw each other he was heavily back on the drugs – heavily smoking crack and drinking neat vodka until he could stand no more. He would do things and have no idea that he had done them the next day. I wanted to help him but couldn’t – i thought it was just a phase he was going thru (maybe a mid life crisis) For a few weeks i suspected he was either dealing drugs or cheating on me….he admitted to dealing drugs. Then a week before our anniversary (he was going to propose to me in a hot air balloon) 1 night out of the blue i found a letter on his laptop to his friend in prison explaining how he had a mad night on crack and slept with 2 prostitutes in a hotel….i knew that he wouldnt of admitted it so i packed my things and left. He is greatly remorseful, crying and begging everyday, Constantly calling and texting, and i believe him. I know what strange effects drugs have on people. I now feel sympathy for him because he tried to kill himself on 3 different occasions because he says he has lost the love of his life. (although he has a beautiful son from a previous relationship – why would he leave him?) He tried to OD, hang himself and slit his wrists. So i have now been going around to see him…on 1 occasion he wouldn’t let me leave the flat, head-butted me and smashed my phone then he cried and was sorry after. I still love him and want this to work but could i ever trust him not to hurt me again – physically or mentally…? he understands hes got drug problems and has been going to get himself sorted with counseling etc and has been straight for 3 days now. He wants me to move to Dubai with him for 3 months 2 his dads then he wants to travel the world together. (that was our plan) I dont want to be without him but what do i do…?! Is this all too much to overcome…weve got money so can pay for the best counseling but am i wasting my time…?

I still love him and dont want him to hurt anymore…but please help!

Thanks

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Also, he is leaving in 2 weeks and wants me to go – so i need a decision quick…
And don’t know if this is any useful information but he also has ADHD…

We had an extremely loving and very exciting relationship prior to his drug binge…why shouldnt i trust him again…? I havent already made my mind up but i know it sounds that way – i just dont want to regret my decision for letting him go – his theory for moving to Dubai is to come clean – ie no drug tollerance out there – please help! im completely lost!

He’s 11 months old-almost, and she gave birth to a little girl Friday, which she had told us she was going to place with us, however, today, we found out she changed her mind. We live in a small own, and they’ll be attending the same school (along with her other child, age 6 now). In fact, the kids will be in the same grade. How do I explain to him the fact that she didn’t keep him, and she kept his sister? BTW, she hasn’t had a job in over 7 years, my son was born meth addicted, she has no home, no vehicle, and is talking about taking the baby to live in a camper which doesn’t have running water. The bio dad has left her because of it. Also, I’m in the process for a while to become a foster parent, just in case. Also, I’m going to give her the clothes, bassinet, and many things she’ll need, for the baby’s sake.

My son just turned 3 now. his mother, we werent married, has legal custody.i get him 12-14 hours a week depending what mood she is in. she is selling weed and cocaine from her home. I have talked to a couple of her siblings. who think she is using coke because she has been acting really weird toward them lately. what should i do? call child services? she hasnt had a job in years. she does do little side jobs for cash so she has little evidence of income but she lives pretty well for making less than 150 bucks a week. She just called and demanded i pay her money for a 1200 dentist bill that she wont show me. i have never been behind on support, ever. she didn’t bring him over sunday, visitation 9-5. her reason, he was up all night and went to bed at 6:30 am. this was the night that people at his birthday party said late night she was blowing coke. and explains why either she or him didnt go to bed til 630 in the morning. she just uses him to get to me and get what she wants. she does what ever she wants. how can it be legal. i need advice. please help.

I think my son is consuming alcohol with friends. He is just 16 and it’s not right at his age to do so. I am too scared to confront him and interrogate on this. But I guess I’ll have to do it to save my son’s future. Please tell me the easiest method to detect if he has consumed alcohol or not.

I just got one of those new fountains from hammack and schleimer and have NO idea what to put in it. I need a good recipe for my son’s 1st birthday party. (NO PULP)
No recipes with ice cream because I don’t think the fountain can have ice cream in it because it will clog up.

He lost his cusines to foster care , his drug addict mom came back into his life and then in feburary of 07 his dad (who is biologicaly his grandfather) died. I know he is not a bad kid. The life he has had would be hard for an adult to cope with . he is doing what he feels he has to to survive. I need to know how to help him .there is alot more to his story i could right a novel . but any suggestions would help and please dont condem him . thats part of the reason he is where he is now .
he was not born to be bad
my parents adopted him from my sister they have had him since birth his real dad wants nothing to do with him

My ex cheated on me once when I was 14 and now cheated on me once again last week so I broke up with him. He is very violent and a major alcoholic. We have a 5 month old son and he says I am being unfair for not letting him see our son anymore. He texted me this morning and here was the conversation…

Him: Honey can you please answer when I call you!?
Me: No. Why would I want to speak to you?
Him: So I can apologize.
Me: I am tired of your bogus apologies. You apologize today then do the same bull crap next week.
Him: Tatiana. I know I am not the ideal guy, but we have a son together.
Me: And? I have no problem being a mom and dad to Kevin.
Him: Tatiana, come on. Kevin needs me.
Me: No Kevin does not need you. You’re a horrible role model for him and I don’t want you around my baby anymore.
Him: You know you can’t do that right?
Me: Yes I can. I have to protect my son from violent, alcoholic people like you. I don’t want my son to see these things.
Him: You can’t separate me and my son!
Me: Justin listen to me! I love you, but I love Kevin more than I love you.
Him: What is that supposed to mean? You can’t separate us.
Me: That means that I have to let you go. I can’t be with you Justin and I can’t allow you to be around Kevin! You need major help. Get some help and change. Then you can see your son.
Him: You are being unfair!
Me: I can’t do this shit anymore Justin. I don’t want my son to grow up to be like you.
Him: I need to see my son Tatiana. Please.
Me: Please Justin. Get yourself together, then you can see your son. This is not a healthy environment for Kevin.

Am I being unfair?

There was once a man named seymour. He lived in a dimly lit underground mine. He only came out between 1am and 4am, and he feasted on souls of small amish childern and puppies. The police didnt know why there was so many random amish corpses of small children and puppies littering the streets near the mine. So one day one of the cops has the wise idea to go into the mine. He gets to an abandoned shack inside the mine, He opens it to find a sleeping man about 8’6 and looking about 140 pounds, very malnourished and sickly. He awoke the man and attempted to question him. The man got up and knocked him out with surprising strength. The cop awoke terrified tied to a chair outside the mine, it was 1:39 am and the murderer was directily in front of him with a knife and some lemons. He then slowly skinned the cop alive and drenched him in lemon juice. Then he placed the skinless cop in the lobby of the police station, he cut the power and ran away. The cop watching the station tried to help him because he was skinless and screaming in pain but as soon as the cop touched him he burst into flames and burned to death, also lighting his friend on fire and when the cop got the flames off him he looked at his skinless co-worker who is now a pile of charred flesh,ash,and bones on a chair. So the dead cops partner goes into the cave with 3 other cops to investigate, and they got deep in the cave and found nothing, so they begin to leave when they heard a sickening noise, they turned around to see one of the cops dead by a pick axe into one temple and outside the other. so they get out their guns and start yelling. but the cop just slumps down and nobody is there. So they do deeper and start to investigating when one of the other cops goes missing, so now its just 2 cops left and as the partner is about to leave and wait for backup the cop next to him gets a pick-axe driven through the roof of his mouth and out of the forehead and blood sprayed all over the partner, so he runs out and then re-enters with backup. they find nothing so he leaves. back at his house he hears a noise around 2:47 am, he wakes up to check it out, he goes downstairs and sees his wife and kids, also one of the cops that went missing, the cop was skinned alive and his muscle fibers were being ripped out by fish hooks, it was still happening while he watched in shock. Then the murderer drenched the victim in saltwater and vinegar and ripped out his eyes with fishhooks, then he takes the partners gun that he stole and shot the cop in the back of the head, then he moved on to the son. He peeled off the kids face using his long dirty broken fingernails. He then ate the kids flesh. The partner just watched because he was injected with a drug that paralyzed him by an accomplace that got into the house while the cop was being killed and stabbed him in the back with the drug, he watched as his son slowly was eaten alive. The the wife was forced to drink hydrochloric acid and it melted her organs. then as he about killed the cop the swat team broke down the door and chased him out, he amazingly got away because he was quick and agile. Then the drug wore off and the Partner drove to the cave, got a shotgun, and charged into the cave. He found it littered with the brutalized bodies of tons of swat team members.Then the killer charged him with a pick-axe and he shot him with his shotgun. he stumbled but kept running. The cop then unloaded 7 more slugs into him and he dropped. He then took the pick-axe and bashed it through his skull. As he was leaving the killer got up and threw the pick-axe into his kneecap shattering it. The partner fell to the floor. Then the killer ripped out his intestines and strangled him to death with them. Then he went back into the cave to find a barely alive swat member. He ripped out his veins and flossed with them. Then he shoved a dead puppy down the swat members throat. Then he found another lucky survivor groaning in agony and ripped his skull in half. He lived quietly in the mine feasting on the town police force for many years after that.
it was actually meant to be a plot description for a friend

I just thought I would get a little bit more insight on the subject…I’m not planning on trying to break up a marriage or anything like that…I’m just confused. Let me give you a little more info before ya’ll start bashing me…
I’m married but seperated pending a divorce and child custody hearing. My wife has been smoking crack and snorting coke while I’m working my a$$ off and I told her to get out. I have our 4 month old son and I’m going to try to terminate her parental rights. I found out she has a long history of alcohol/drug abuse and mental illness. I can’t even begin to tell you how evil she is. She once told me that she wished I would kill myself and said another time that she would kill our son and then herself…so basically SHE’s OUT THE DOOR! FOREVER! I did love her at some point because of our son and enough to marry her…now i’m struggling through this divorce. My best friend that I have known all my life and grew up with found out that we could be friends again because my wife is out of the picture and never let me contact my friends (which I honored cause Im an idiot ok I got it) Anyway, since I moved away from her when I was 9 we have always remained close and still visited each other and I have always been in love with her and even got ballsy enough to tell her when I was probably about 13-14 (Im 23 now). She moved off farther away and met her now husband…got married and had a baby…now they moved back closer to home and she has a lot more contact with me almost on a daily basis. I met her husband and he seems like a great guy. I’m so proud of her and I am glad that she has a happy family but these feelings that I have had ALL MY LIFE, even when we were so far apart, won’t go away EVER and I don’t feel like they ever will…I’m just stuck and don’t know what to do…Just looking for some advice…
I just want to point out again that I would never have ANY intentions of breaking up a happy marriage I swear to God. I know it’s not right by the church, law, etc. but that doesn’t help the feelings that I have. I would never interfere and I am very grateful to her husband for letting us remain friends, I would never dishonor another man like that…I just trying to find some coping skills to deal with it because thats all I can do is deal with it and live with it forever. But since I can not ask her the “why” question it will always be pondering in my mind…not looking to harm her marriage in any way whatsoever…

my son and i have a very good relationship. he has always been able to come to me and answer me honestly. i had just picked him up from his best friend after spending the weekend. we went out to dinner and he was acting silly. i asked him if he ever smoked weed before. he said he tried it for the first time friday at his friends house. then he asked me if he was in trouble. i asked him the who, what, where, why, and hows. i did not get crazy because it’s more important to me that he feels that he can come to me. i did print some information about teens and alcohol and drugs. i would like some other things i could talk about that is not so textbook. straight to the point and hopefully he would so no if there is a next time. please help.

My son girlfriend smoke Meth while she was pregnate.With the
baby being born In Aug of 2007,and on sept of 2007 he was taken to the hospital then transported to a children’s hospital.
That my husband and my son and were on on way home,Myson is in jail for hurting the baby.They dodtor’s from the hospital say that my son had to have done it cause he was the only one with the baby.But in court at the preliminary hearing she stated that had come back to check on the babyand he was fine.I know she did other drug while she was carring the baby but no proof.But can the deffects be shaken baby sydromone from her drug usage?

my son shot cocaine last night in his hand,this AM he came to me with the hand swollen and hot. the swelling has increased.

I have been “married” for 16 years, I never loved this man, I hardly had sex with him after signing the “marriage license”, I was pregnant when we signed it.
After leaving him and comming back trying to make the situation worked for several ocasions, the only affected has been my teenager son.
Now, that I had spent all my savings trying to save, house, cars, bills, and even him from jail for having 3 dui’s and suspended Drivers license, he is treating us worst and worst and worst. I have no means to get divorce, since I am unemployed ( he is too)
We hate each other and I notice that he does not love my son, he never never never never talk to him, just mumbres Hi and bye.
He is his son, but neighbors and classmates think that my son has a step-father because the way he treats him: he ignores his son completely, unless he wants some of what my son is eating, my husband even dares to ask for it).
please help me
I am desperate, he stole my life because of my weakeness, my compassion towards him, my stupidity, my fears,
please let me know if there is a posibility
thank you

My 24th birthday is in 4 days, meaning I’ve been an addict for 7 years. My adopted sister had her son eight days ago, and they want me to be the godfather, except they’re worried about my drug use around my nephew. Her husband, my best friend, broke down crying to me because he was so worried for my life. It’s scary, because he is a hard ass and is not known to cry at all. My twin brother has distanced himself from me. He is so disappointed that I have heard him denying that we’re related. Another good friend of mine is a former alcoholic, so he understands. He is trying to help, but I’m just a little jerk and won’t stop. All of them are trying to help me.

I have been using meth, coke, heroin, and pot. So far, I’ve only been able to get off weed.

I have been to rehab countless times and have overdosed twice. I really want to stop, but it’s like I’m sharing my body with someone else who refuses to cooperate and stop using. I’ve become very depressed about it.

Am I beyond getting assistance to kick my habits? Is it all up to me, even though my addictions have become so strong that I can’t break them? If you could give mr any advice or suggestions, that would be great. Thanks for your time.

hi. well here goes. my auntie just had a brain hemerage and died before i could even see her again and my husband has been the worst *** hole ever! i get yelled at for everything like having even one dish in the sink or the fact my son tipped the cat food on the floor while i was in the toilet etc. ive been so badly binge eating crap because its the only thing that makes me happy. i feel i want to be alone and i don’t want to go outside! i don’t have time for a barth or a book and i cant go to the shops because money is tight. my family are really great and supportive people but since the death its all been fighting over the will and cort battles for them {dad has 6 brothers and sisters and since he was the favorite then he got left all the house and money and assets and all his family want their fair share and cant decide what the want etc] so they just couldn’t handel messed up me and a over active child put on them! plus they run their own business and are training a new Secretary. i have only but one friend who is awesome and great but works full time then has family commitments so i don’t see her much. i just feel really moody and overwhelmed i don’t even ever want to talk or get out of bed, i don’t like outside or going to the park anymore and ive started to not like my son and see him as a pain and a hardship on me, which is so sad as he is a well behaved little boy and very bright but im just angry and withdrawn from him all day. what can i do? i just have lost happiness and all motivation for everything.
i feel if i had my own way id like to sit down all alone in my house all day with the curtains drawn [so in darkness] and be silent.
my son is almost 4 years old.

I really made this song as a joke so it’s pretty cheesy, but my friends say it’s hilarious.

I watch MTV,
while my mom does LSD,
wanna come to my house,
yeah when should I go,
it doesn’t really matter when,
’cause my dad does heroin

Hey kid do you wanna,
try some marijuana,
well, I really would,
but it doesn’t taste that good

Then the cops came down,
and the dealers had a frown,
the cop pulled out his gun,
and then he shot his son,
’cause he was high,
then he said “bye,bye”
the cop pulled out his cuffs,
and went for Hillary Duff,

(Chorus)
Drugs, drugs, drugs,
you cant get enough,
that’s why I am hooked on snuff,
you won’t see me not high on weed, (repeated 2x)

then I saw Reed,
who was using some weed,
he was talking to this kid,
who was acting pretty insane,
’cause he was high in cocaine…

That’s all I have written so far.
do you think I should make a youtube video out of this?

A few months ago i bought a baby mattress for my son’s crib because we sold my daughter’s when she moved into a big girl bed. We bought another from a friend, who’s son was recently put into a toddler bed and she said she was done having children so we bought the mattress from her for about 70 bucks.

My son is about 3 months old, and she is now pregnant with another child and wants her mattress back. She said that she is “going through some hard times and just figured out she was pregnant and will need the mattress back for her new baby, and she would buy it from me for 50 bucks.” Oh, and to “Think about it. Don’t feel pressured to sell it but she really needs it and that it would something a good friend would do.” Is this lady smoking crack? I’m so pissed. I don’t even know what to do, say, “No it’s mineeee” and act like a 3 year old?

What would you do? Just give her the freaking mattress back and get another or not give it back? I don’t have to give it back since i did BUY it?
Natalie, the thing is that she says that but you can tell it means a whole different thing. She said to “not feel pressured but if i was a good friend i would think this over” so how is that over reacting? she is pressuring me to give this mattress to her, and if she wants it back then i will sell it to her for 70 bucks.

Our son (adopted) has been diagnosed with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, can we obtain social security benefits for him?

its so bad. when i heard it i was eating pop rocks. i went to throw them away my son asked what i was doing i said i was throwing them away he asked if he could have them i said no it mite be a drug he said like crystal meth i said yes like that i found out that his teacher was teaching him about that in 1st grade.

I recently found a bag of powder in my son’s room.
I tasted it and it tasted really sour,
it doesn’t have a smell.
could it possibly be cocaine?
So is it?
it taste kinda sweet but really sour