I am in the worse of situations. I am from Europe and came here to achieve the American dream. Now, I am married to a man with mental issues and to top it off nine months pregnant. My family in Europe is poor and cannot help me. My life was so promising. I started out as a successful fashion model and traveled all over the world making a lot of money. Then I went back to school and was doing really good attending college full time and working. Then I met my husband and all my problems started. I admit I married him way to quick and his extreme neediness sucked me into a spiral I couldn’t get out of. He lied to me from the get go, and when I tried to leave him, he completely lost it and threatened to kill himself. I obviously was worried that he really might hurt himself and stayed. I stayed through all his weekly intoxicated ventures and irresponsible behaviors, I stayed through all his insane shopping sprees I even stayed when I found out that he had much less money than he really had. I stayed and stayed and always tried to see the best in him and hope that perhaps one day a miracle might bring some stability in this insanity. My savings soon dwindled and so did my sense of control. Three years after meeting him, I quit college in my third year, my money was gone and I discovered I was pregnant. During this whole pregnancy his mental health has gotten even worse. He started abusing everything that came in his hands, from taking Ambien and driving to excessive dosages of Lorazepam and alcohol. During my pregnancy he started yelling at me in public, tried to jump out a window and I had to hold him back smashed his head through a car’s windshield and was put into a mental institution after driving erratically in March 2009 and causing two car accidents in one day. I had hope that he could get the help he needed, but couple of months later, he stopped going to his AA meetings, I caught him with Ambien, never once was there for me or attempted to be of any support. He couldn’t even clean the littler box during my pregnancy. It is always about him and nobody else. He was on bipolar medication for the past months and nothing seemed to help. Then, three days ago, he mixed his bipolar medication with alcohol again and completely went off the deep end again. He is now in a mental institution again. He comes from a rich family (his father is a doctor), but himself has no money, just debt. He was a medical resident and got kicked off his first year due to who knows what. He now most likely will lose his new position as well. I am going to have the baby exactly one month from now and I am at the end of my robe. I have no money, I am two semesters short of having finished my education, I am thousands of miles away from my home country and I have a complete psycho husband. I am still in love with him and when I married him, I promised to stick with him through good and bad, but when does the bad become inexcusable? Hi parents are about as unsupportive as it gets. They haven’t even called me for two days to ask how their son or I am doing. A part of me feels really bad for my husband and I do want to help him, but another part just about had it.
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My oldest son is almost 20 years old. He is definitly on the wrong road. I believe he is doing crystal meth again after being clean for almost 3 years. When he was 16 he got into and ended up in all kinds of trouble with the law. When I found out what he was doing I turned him in myself and he ended up going to DYS, a juvenile prison for a little over a year. He hated me at first but we worked thru it and for awhile I actually felt like he was greatful that I did it. Now I see him spiraling down the same road. He wont admit it to me..he actually avoids me if at all possible. He doesnt live with me so he feels its none of my buisness. I have cut him off totally financialy. I just dont know what else I can do to help him now or make him see what hes doing to himself. He has a little boy that is almost a year old that he is not allowed to see. Ever since he and his girlfriend broke up and she refuses to let him see the baby things have been awful. This is when the drugs started again. I am willing to do anything and everything in my power and beyond to save my son. I keep hoping and praying for a way to do it without turning him in to cops. When I try to talk to him he either blows it off like im over reacting or gets angry with me and leaves. Has anyone been thru anything similar? Any advice you would like to share?
For the record, I didnt send him anywhere, the judge did and yes while in jail he was in a rehab program. I dont feel I failed him, I feel I saved him. I would rather him in a place getting help then have him runaway and end up killing himself.
please tell me what to do about him and the drugs without cops
My grown son is an alcoholic, his Dr. finally put him on antabuse. He was doing great BUT he found away around the antabuse. Yes he takes it every morning BUT through the Internet he found “helpful hints” on how to not get sick while drinking and taking the meds. I’m so angry at him and I’m just about at then end of my rope. I’m so afraid that this game he’s playing with the antabuse will cause him to have a heart attack or much worse. I guess I just need some advice.
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I don’t even know what I want to ask, I just am reaching out anywhere I can think of. I have a 20 year old son who is addicted to marijuana, and is now dabbling with ecstasy. I found this out from his twin brother, whom is clean and has a new baby. He has great concerns for his brother, he has even contacted the show “Intervention”. I have sent my son to rehab three times, to therapy, to see a psychiatrist, I’ve even had him arrested in my own home. He is currently on probation, so I’m in the process of contacting his probation officer & needless to say I am kicking him out of my house (yet again). All this is coming to a head today which is not only the week of Christmas, but it’s also my birthday. I’ve been going through this with him since he was 15, I don’t know what else to do. He’s been back in my home for a little over a month now, he swore this time he was going to stay clean & he had no where else to go. I’m at my wits end and I just don’t know what else to do. I’m looking for a local NA group for ME (Baton Rouge area). I just need a little advice or support from anyone who has been here…my heart is breaking. I lost my mom last summer to cancer, and I thought that would be the break thru for him. He broke down in my arms & cried like a child because he felt like his grandma died being disappointed in him, his words. Then when his twin brother had a baby, he swore that would be it. He didn’t want his nephew to have a drug addict for an uncle, again HIS words. It hurts so dam much to watch him self destruct like this..help, anyone…
The drugs/alcohol are out of control. He drives/drunk or high and avoids getting caught. He dissappears for days. He never pays taxes. He uses the Emergency Room as a doctors office and never pays the bill. He refuses drug treatment voluntarily. I am at the end of my rope. I want to see him stopped, but not go to jail. I want to see him court ordered into an inpatient rehab center, where he can get some help. How can I alert the authorities, so they can find him drunk driving or in posession of drugs, and know that the judge will NOT put him in jail, but order mandatory rehab?? I’ll even pay for the rehab if it isn’t too expensive. But, I need the court order to make sure he stays for the entire period. If he doesn’t, then the judge can throw him in jail. Who do I contact at the state, county or township level to ASK for the Rehab sentence ahead of time??
My son is 25 y/o.
My son just turned 40 and lives in SC his gf called me earlier and told me he is back on Crack after a few weeks clean. She is in need of help and with him not working they can’t afford a rehab center. He is not using a l but she would like him to get clean and stay clean. She in no way supports his habit he gets with friends and they buy it and all of them smoke it together. There are no minor children involved in this matter but i fear for my son’s life as well as his gf’s safety.
I’m thinking of having a punch with some rum for my son’s 18th birthday party–Most of my son’s friends are 19 and older (which is the drinking age in Ontario)..so would it really be wrong to have it?
My husband wants out of our marriage because I won’t accept his 16 year olds behavour. We have an 8 year old son together. The older boy has had years of problems with sex abuse, porn, voyerism, drugs and on and on. He has alianated his entire family and myself because of this child and risks his job with his drinking. How do alcoholics really feel inside?
with my son i was hungry all day and just snacked all day pretty much but this time it’s like food totally disgusts me and then all of a sudden im starving and once i start eating i cant stop until im so stuffed it hurts. im only eating like twice a day. im 13 weeks is this normal???
When my husband and I started dating his son was still an infant. He kicked his ex girfriend out finally because she was abusive. Punching him in the faace over and over until he bled from his eyes and one night it was so bad he almost died. She was really bad with cocaine, crack and smoking weed so he just said this is not the environment our son needs and I honestly don’t even love you enough to make something like this work. Unfortunately for me this situation did not get any better. In the last almost 4 years I have had to deal with her being homeless, finding her a place to stay, making sure that I tucked in her son every night and told him that I loved him and mommy loved him too just so he wouldn’t wonder why mommy hadn’t called or came to get him in three weeks, I’ve delt with her crazy screaming fights over my husband trying to look out for the best interests of his child. She is honestly completely insane and has many many many mental problems. She has a very long history of abuse with her family and witnessed her father kill her mother so it’s understandable that she would be a little off balance, but I have taken up her slack and raised her child to what he is. We have custody and when she is stable enough we trade him off every other week so she gets him an equal time, but she is barely ever stable enough to do this. She just called today to get him for the weekend because she said she just got a new apartment. This will be her 6th home in 4 months and it’s beginning to confuse my step son. He will go by his old homes and think she still lives there and want to see her, or go to her old jobs and think she still works there and cry until we go in so he can see she isn’t there. She hasn’t been able to keep a steady living environment because she is hooked on drugs so bad she can’t keep a job. She is about to probably go to jail for shopliffting fromher last job. She says she doesn’t do drugs around her son and that when she has him he is safe and happy. I honestly don’t believe it. i have had to buy groceries for her before because she couldn’t feed him. Or go out and buy clothes for him just so she would have something for him to wear. I’m just honestly getting tired of it all. my husband wants his son to have his mother because he never really had his and mine was absent for a very long time. but this environment is not good for him at all. I want my husband to make it so she has to have special visitation rights until we know that she is stable enough to care for him and I’m not sure how to go about saying this to him. He’s afraid she will take off with his son and honestly he is probably right and she would try. I just am at a loss as to what to do.
My mom is an alcoholic and drinks herself into a coma damn near…she starts at around 7am and is drunk before noon and does this all day until bedtime around 9pm…she is 5 foot tall weighs maybe 100lbs…..she can drink almost an 18 pack aday of beer…..she’s annoying and beligerant when she’s drunk….I have an 8 year old who adores his nana…and i’m expecting another son in a couple months…..i told her the new baby will not be around her as long as she is still drinking….my son visits her but im wondering if i should not let him go over anymore until she gets help….i’ve tried to take her to detox but she won’t go..she won’t go to AA or anything….she doesnt think she has a problem and on top of that she is taking Xanax now….She is Hep C positive and her enzyme levels are elevated (im sure she didnt tell her doctor about her drinking, because he prescribed the xanax)….i dont know what to do…she is married but her busband drinks also (not like her).
her husband refuses to think she has a problem ( I think he doesnt want to lose her, so he turns a blind eye)I love her but i can’t stand to be around her or talk to her on the phone…Should i show some tough love and tell her until she gets help my kids won’t be visiting her?? I’m ready to just wash my hands of her!!!
I’m going to send my son to a drug rehab, and I want to know how I can get information about them.
A son was doing crack and there was a warrant out for his arrest. As soon as the mother found out the guy was dealing and smoking crack, she phoned in the warrant to the sheriff’s department to have him picked up. What is your opinion on this?????
My son who is 17 has a drinking problem. I found two big bottles of vodka in his room and vodka concealed in water bottles in his refrigerator. I have found a treatment center in the area that I have made an appointment with but my son refuses to go saying he doesn’t have a problem. The treatment center said I might have to get a Court order issued. How do I go about doing that if I can’t convince my son to go.
I am in the worse of situations. I am from Europe and came here to achieve the American dream. Now, I am married to a man with mental issues and to top it off nine months pregnant. My family in Europe is poor and cannot help me. My life was so promising. I started out as a successful fashion model and traveled all over the world making a lot of money. Then I went back to school and was doing really good attending college full time and working. Then I met my husband and all my problems started. I admit I married him way to quick and his extreme neediness sucked me into a spiral I couldn’t get out of. He lied to me from the get go, and when I tried to leave him, he completely lost it and threatened to kill himself. I obviously was worried that he really might hurt himself and stayed. I stayed through all his weekly intoxicated ventures and irresponsible behaviors, I stayed through all his insane shopping sprees I even stayed when I found out that he had much less money than he really had. I stayed and stayed and always tried to see the best in him and hope that perhaps one day a miracle might bring some stability in this insanity. My savings soon dwindled and so did my sense of control. Three years after meeting him, I quit college in my third year, my money was gone and I discovered I was pregnant. During this whole pregnancy his mental health has gotten even worse. He started abusing everything that came in his hands, from taking Ambien and driving to excessive dosages of Lorazepam and alcohol. During my pregnancy he started yelling at me in public, tried to jump out a window and I had to hold him back smashed his head through a car’s windshield and was put into a mental institution after driving erratically in March 2009 and causing two car accidents in one day. I had hope that he could get the help he needed, but couple of months later, he stopped going to his AA meetings, I caught him with Ambien, never once was there for me or attempted to be of any support. He couldn’t even clean the littler box during my pregnancy. It is always about him and nobody else. He was on bipolar medication for the past months and nothing seemed to help. Then, three days ago, he mixed his bipolar medication with alcohol again and completely went off the deep end again. He is now in a mental institution again. He comes from a rich family (his father is a doctor), but himself has no money, just debt. He was a medical resident and got kicked off his first year due to who knows what. He now most likely will lose his new position as well. I am going to have the baby exactly one month from now and I am at the end of my robe. I have no money, I am two semesters short of having finished my education, I am thousands of miles away from my home country and I have a complete psycho husband. I am still in love with him and when I married him, I promised to stick with him through good and bad, but when does the bad become inexcusable? Hi parents are about as unsupportive as it gets. They haven’t even called me for two days to ask how their son or I am doing. A part of me feels really bad for my husband and I do want to help him, but another part just about had it.
My son is a meth addict. He cooks, uses, and sells.
We have no money. Where in Indiana is the best place for him to go to be treated for his methamphetamine addiction? Other locations are ok, I just would not know how to get him to a place far away.
My sister is addicted to drugs and I have tried almost everything to help her but I am continuing to fail her. I haven’t tried the tough love approach because I am afraid that she will not want to have anything to do with me anymore and will not allow me to see my 4 year old nephew who I adore. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
